Hi Jamie - thanks for the important, articulate question. I don't believe you are a "rude, obnoxious man." You probably are one of millions of normal survivors of a traumatic childhood who is burdened
Dear Nicki, Your bf's withoholding about the kissing incident is not an easy thing to deal with. On the one hand, he wanted to come clean with you, but on the otherhand, he did not want to hurt you
Hi Patricia, It is never to late. I was an Associate Director of a major college and when I attended classes I thought I was simply to old. But all went well and I even had a little fun in the process
Hi Tina - I have great compassion for you, partly because my parents passed on major wounds ("patterns") to me just like yours did. Please do NOT give up! I have seen "Inner Family Therapy" work to rebalance
Hi Tomeka - a complex question. From your description, I suspect your Mom may be a "Grown Wounded Child" (GWC). If so, it's not surprising she has trouble communicating (and thinking?) clearly, and accepting

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