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I have the ability to give mature and appropriate responses to questions regarding adolescent and early adulthood sexuality. Inquiries regarding gay and lesbian activities will be answered without moralizing on my part and will be purely gender sensitive. |
possibly a physical issue, or more likely, performance anxiety, which can occur with attractive women that you hope will perceive you as a great lover, so you get anxious, a situation not liked by the
you're about 24 years late writing this; at this point, i doubt anything is changing; why you've put up with this all these years is a question for your thrapist; she obviously has sexual interest/desire
since you've had orgasms, i don't think past issues are the problem; it's more that you're too FOCUSED on it--lovemaking is not just about the orgasm; the idea is to give/receive affection--once you put
i wouldn't call it a problem, unless YOU view it as such...some guys your age have no interest beyond 2/3 orgasms /wk...if your needs are greater, no harm being done..ps at some point, if u have the time/$$
word of encouragement: accept the unchangeable--as to whether her lack of desire for you is one of her many possible reasons for interest loss, either way, same result...unless you care to make her cooperation

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