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Expert	Average Ratings	Expertise
Rick Olson Canada Available View Profile Ask A Question View Past Answers	Knowledgeability 9.82 Clarity of Response 9.85 Politeness 10.0 Response Time(hr) 43.0 --Last 90 Days(hr) 54.2 Total Questions 261	As a stepparent of 4 children and a family coach, I can answer questions about the issues that arise in step-parenting including discipline,blended families, boundaries and guidelines.
Peter Gerlach, MSW U.S. Available View Profile Ask A Question View Past Answers	Knowledgeability 9.92 Clarity of Response 9.70 Politeness 10.0 Response Time(hr) 43.8 --Last 90 Days(hr) 6.7 Total Questions 110	I can answer questions about remarriage preparation, stepparenting, stepchild discipline, child visitation, grieving, stepfamily norms and myths, mission statements, stepparent job (role)descriptions, communication skills, loyalty and values conflicts, stepfamily identity problems, common pitfalls, ex mate and relative problems, stepfamily merger and adjustment tasks, name confusions, choosing an effective counselor, resolving money disputes, co-parenting support groups, and the family effects of court (legal) battles. I can`t answer questions about medicine, family law, legal stepchild adoption, or financial planning.
Deborah Jean Garland U.S. Maxed Out View Profile View Past Answers	Knowledgeability 9.82 Clarity of Response 9.95 Politeness 10.0 Response Time(hr) 73.1 --Last 90 Days(hr) N/A Total Questions 62	I am able to answer queries about the challenges facing stepmothers & stepmothers-to-be. I am also able to answer queries from men who are divorced with children from a previous, now-dissolved liaison. I am happy to assist these particular parties, since it is their healthy relationship with one another that is the basis of all success in StepLand. I am able to answer queries particularly on the following topics: how to disengage, how to set clear & effective boundaries with all parties in the step dynamic, how to communicate clearly within the primary relationship, how to effectively address less-than-beautiful behaviours from all parties in the step dynamic, how to deal with PAS & its continuous effects, & how to support & grow the primary relationship consistently. (In these statements "primary relationship" = divorced man with children + new partner, who is also called "the stepmother".) I am committed to listening deeply, providing immediately workable solutions, answering each query with kindness, compassion, & encouragement, & respecting each querent's privacy, confidentiality, & challenging situation. I wish every one of you in StepLand peace, happiness, health, & harmony. Unfortunately, I am not able to answer queries from individuals seeking legal advice, since .....

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Rick Olson

Canada

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As a stepparent of 4 children and a family coach, I can answer questions about the issues that arise in step-parenting including discipline,blended families, boundaries and guidelines.

Peter Gerlach, MSW

U.S.

Available

I can answer questions about remarriage preparation, stepparenting, stepchild discipline, child visitation, grieving, stepfamily norms and myths, mission statements, stepparent job (role)descriptions, communication skills, loyalty and values conflicts, stepfamily identity problems, common pitfalls, ex mate and relative problems, stepfamily merger and adjustment tasks, name confusions, choosing an effective counselor, resolving money disputes, co-parenting support groups, and the family effects of court (legal) battles. I can`t answer questions about medicine, family law, legal stepchild adoption, or financial planning.

Deborah Jean Garland

U.S.

Maxed Out

I am able to answer queries about the challenges facing stepmothers & stepmothers-to-be. I am also able to answer queries from men who are divorced with children from a previous, now-dissolved liaison. I am happy to assist these particular parties, since it is their healthy relationship with one another that is the basis of all success in StepLand. I am able to answer queries particularly on the following topics: how to disengage, how to set clear & effective boundaries with all parties in the step dynamic, how to communicate clearly within the primary relationship, how to effectively address less-than-beautiful behaviours from all parties in the step dynamic, how to deal with PAS & its continuous effects, & how to support & grow the primary relationship consistently. (In these statements "primary relationship" = divorced man with children + new partner, who is also called "the stepmother".) I am committed to listening deeply, providing immediately workable solutions, answering each query with kindness, compassion, & encouragement, & respecting each querent's privacy, confidentiality, & challenging situation. I wish every one of you in StepLand peace, happiness, health, & harmony. Unfortunately, I am not able to answer queries from individuals seeking legal advice, since .....

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Recent Answers

2012-02-09 Step Son and Daughter:

Hi Noah - you describe a very common stepfamily scenario. You have a cluster of simultaneous problems: http://sfhelp.org/hazards.htm 1) It sounds like your wife often chooses her son over you and

2012-02-08 Difficult 18 yrs boy--disrepectful, etc.:

Hello Kari - you describe several classic stepfamily stressors. One problem is a marital one - you and your husband disagree over how to set boundaries with his son. Your mate apparently puts his kids'

2012-01-31 I'm horrified I'm making my boyfriend's kids worse:

Lauren Welcome to step parenting. From your email I can tell that you are a caring and concerned step parent. Some of the things you mentioned show that you have a very good understanding of your

2012-01-25 Boyfriend's daughter:

Jennifer Welcome to step parenting. Remember that you just moved into their home and their life as a family. You are the stranger, and to her eyes you may be the interloper, the one that comes in and

2012-01-23 Stepdaughter runing relationship:

Carol I understand that you feel the hurt of her behaviour and that you have a lack of trust and respect for her. It also must hurt that you have done your best to give love and a caring home to her