Molestation/Expert Profile

Expertise

I am an expert and counselor on experts.com too. I am aware and have been through it all. I can answer your questions on being molested by my father, brother and how it feels as an adult to have dissociative identity disorder (DID) and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I can also answer questions on being in SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous, AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, being married several times as I tried to run from all my fears, including getting lost on the road and yet I still would strike out to find a man even if I did get lost. There's not anything I can imagine that I wouldn't try to answer!

Experience in the area

When I was fifty-nine years of age, I experienced an incorporation with Dr. William Tollefson, the gentleman that developed incorporation therapy. Now my three altars and I are one system instead of four of us fighting against each other. On top of the molestations of childhood, I was raped repeatedly in college by three men and left to die. I stayed in basically an abusive marriage for 26 years even though I was the one that was educated, six years of college. Organizations: United Methodist's Women's Group, Epiphany, Faith Partner's, Emmaus Walk Publications: Sarah Harrison has written several articles for the Women's Institute for Incorporation Therapy's monthly newsletter as well as articles for spiritual magazines. She has just recently published her own true tragedy of sexual abuse entitled, "You Love Your Daddy, Don't You?" Go to www.incestvictim.com to view the website and order her book. Education/Credentials: Master's in Education, Specialist's in Education, Specialist's in Administration. Awards and Honors: Teacher of the Year, on the Board of the Finance Committee for Gwinnett Co. Board of Ed. for seven years, CASA volunteer in Forsyth Co. for four years. Past/Present Clients: Women's group at Birmingham United Methodist Church in Alpharetta, GA and Epiphany at Columbia, SC. I want to start engaging in speaking conferences for other women's groups as soon as possible now that my book is published.

What do you like about this subject?

The only good thing about this subject is that there is help for those that are willing to listen, read, and learn from others mistakes.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

My biggest goal in this field is to encourage other victims to forgive their perpetrator for it is in forgiving others that we finally learn to forgive ourselves for the things we have done as a result of our victimization.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

The most interesting thing about this subject and the hardest to make the victim understand including myself is that we victims are just that "the victim" and not the perpetrator. We should not punish ourselves for what others have done to us.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

Some people believe an adult who was a victim of child molestation can just bury it and let it go, forget it so to speak. That is not true. It must be dealt with, family secrets must come out into the open before one can heal from the abuse. It will continue to fester until the boil opens and the poison is released.