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Expert Profile: Alice Allen, Rev (ULC)

Expertise:  Adoption Reunion and Reconciliation - Do I matter to you? To those reaching out, it is an important question. I offer search guidance, information about typical/atypical consequences of reunion, and counseling to all involved parties. Please 'View Profile' for more detail.

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I am an Universalist minister and counselor specializing in search, reunion, and reconciliation issues. I am founder of GrannysCupboard, an ULC ministry. As a function of our ministry, GrannysCupboard assists individuals searching for missing or estranged family and community members. Confidential information provided to GrannysCupboard is not shared without explicit permission. All costs associated with search service are paid by GrannysCupboard.

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Something controversial or provocative about this subject 
adoptee: 1) aparents will not stop loving you, 2) bparents surrendered you because they love you...
adoptive parents: 1) children will not stop loving you, 2) bparents are not enemies...
biological parents: 1) child already loves you, 2) aparents are not enemies...
Reunion and reconciliation are processes that can benefit each of you.
Something interesting about this subject that others may not know: 
1) In this day and age, almost anyone not intentionally hiding can be located...
2) Some people, upon finding or being found, experience emotional issues that surprise them...
3) The finding, of itself, offers no magical solution to the long term concerns that may have developed during the separation.
What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?  GrannysCupboard is working hard to build an Internet resource for the generations. With time, the work will house comprehensive online help for individuals seeking lost loved ones. The entire project, to date, is non-commercial and self-supported. It is my passion.
What do you like about this subject?  The opportunities to search for and find missing loved ones have dramatically increased with the evolution of the Internet. As a result, more families are dealing with the consequences of search and reunion. Because of my experience in this field, I hope to assist individuals with the rebuilding of self, family, and community.
Average Ratings
Prestige Points: 280
Knowledge   10.0   Best of the best
Clarity of Response   9.89   Best of the best
Timeliness   10.0   Best of the best
Politeness   10.0   Best of the best
Number Of Questions
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Max Questions to be Asked
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Total Questions
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42
Recent Reviews from Users
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User Comments
thanks you have been most helpfull
(dave on 05/27/08)
Thanks a million
(Michael on 01/07/08)
Very Helpful! Thankyou, and i think i would like to talk more with you. I dont think i am going to even tell me adoptive mother about these conversati
(Sarah on 08/12/07)
Thank you so much for your reply! Sorry i did not rate you at first, i was actually unaware of the fact that you could actually do that. Your answer t
(caitlin on 07/27/07)
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Recent Answers from Alice Allen, Rev (ULC)
2008-05-27  adoption Hello Dave. Time may be of essence here, if you hope to preserve your parental rights. Thank you for writing. Has an Adoption Petition already been filed? Please contact a family law or adoption attorney...
2008-04-23  Birthparent reunion Hello Mike. Usually, I am inclined to support the plans made by the agency and adoptive family (yourself and your former wife) for the care of an adopted child. Thank you for writing. Pitfalls? Yeah...
2008-04-07  parental rights Hello, Jennifer. I can fully appreciate the unhappy situation you are in. Thank you for writing. As I am sure you know, the system is designed to protect and aid the children placed in its care. The...
2008-03-04  i am seventeen and brother is 15 Hello Cassie. You are in a difficult situation. I am so sorry things are not easier for you and your brother. Thank you for writing. Can anyone take him away from you? Yes, as you may have guessed,...
2008-02-05  interesting situation Hello, Donja. Yes, yours is an interesting situation. Thank you for writing. As it seems important to your birthmom, please DO allow yourself to be included in her husband's obituary. You are his step-daughter...
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