Adoption Reunion and Reconciliation - "Do I matter to you?" - To adopted persons and their families, it is an especially important question. I offer guidance related to post-adoption search and reunion. Questions about how to search, what to expect of reunion, and where to locate resources are welcome. Please 'View Profile' for more detail.
Universalist minister and counselor specializing in post-adoption search, reunion, and reconciliation issues. Founder of GrannysCupboard, a ULC ministry that assists individuals who are searching for missing or estranged family and community members. Confidential information provided to GrannysCupboard is not shared without explicit permission. All costs associated with search service are paid by GrannysCupboard. No fees are charged.
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The opportunities to search for and find missing loved ones have dramatically increased with the evolution of the Internet. As a result, more families are dealing with the consequences of search and reunion. Because of my experience in this field, I hope to assist individuals with the rebuilding of self, family, and community.
GrannysCupboard is working hard to build an Internet resource for the generations. With time, the work will house comprehensive online help for individuals seeking lost loved ones. The entire project, to date, is non-commercial and self-supported. It is my passion.
1) In this day and age, almost anyone not intentionally hiding can be located...
2) Some people, upon finding or being found, experience emotional issues that surprise them...
3) The finding, of itself, offers no magical solution to the long term concerns that may have developed during the separation.
adoptee: 1) aparents will not stop loving you, 2) bparents surrendered you because they love you...
adoptive parents: 1) children will not stop loving you, 2) bparents are not enemies...
biological parents: 1) child already loves you, 2) aparents are not enemies...
Reunion and reconciliation are processes that can benefit each of you.
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The search for siblings may prove difficult without identifying information. Much will depend on where the adoptions were finalized. Reunion registries and DNA registries are becoming more popular and
JoAnne, in my opinion, it is likely that the "birth" father's recent passing has triggered your sister. Losing a child is not something she can entirely "put behind her." Mothers do not forget. Your sister
Misty, trust your instincts. It is the best approach. Clearly, your son has a right to know his father and his siblings. And, promoting these family relationships will help your son to feel less dis-membered
If you are an adult adopted person who was born/adopted in California (or any other US State where adoption records and original birth certificates are sealed by the courts), learning more about your beginnings
Roxann, identifying birth family members may be as simple as requesting your records. Even if the search becomes complicated, well-qualified help is available free of charge. Thank you for writing.
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