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Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence


Are you unsure if you are living in an abusive relationship? Are you feeling confused, angry or hurt and don't know what to do? I can help you determine if you are in an abusive or unhealthy relationship and provide suggestions on how to create a plan for your happiness, health and well-being! Please ask questions to find out answers today! Everyone deserves to live life with happiness and joy, and I am here to help you. Are you ready to find out how you can live a better and happier life? If you are, please ask your questions today!! Asking and finding the answers you are looking for is the first step to improve you joy and happiness!

Experience in the area

I am a Certified Life Coach Specializing in Prevention and Education of Domestic Abuse and Violence.


•SPARCC (Safe Place And Rape Crisis Center), Sarasota, FL •CAT (Sarasota Violence Prevention Community Action Team) •Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence •Guardian Ad Litem 12th Judicial Circuit of Florida


Please visit my webpage for more information and articles about abusive relationships and domestic violence at or I am here with you, while you find answers that help you!


•B.S. from Evergreen State College, Olympia, WA •Core Competency Course from the Shelter for Abused Women and Children, Naples, FL •Life Coach Training from Changepoint Coaching & Consulting Association •Advanced Training from The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology •Sexual Violence Core Training from Florida Council Against Sexual Violence •High Risk Domestic Violence Training by Lundy Bancroft and Sarasota Police Dept, FL •Court Assistance Training from SPARCC (Safe Place and Rape Crisis Center, Sarasota, FL •Principles of Prevention by The Centers of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) •Guardian Ad Litem 12th Judicial Circuit of Florida

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What do you like about this subject?

Helping people learn about and understand abuse and domestic violence and its harmful affects on people.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

Learning quicker ways for people to recognize abuse and how to respond in effective ways.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

Abusive behavior is a learned communication style that gets people what they want at the expense of another person's health and well-being. Abusive behavior is overstepping personal boundaries to maintain power and control over another's person actions. Beliefs that one person "knows best" for another erodes and can overpower a person's ability to make decisions of what is best for them.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

Most abusive people cannot or will not give up their need for control or change their belief system even when their behavior negatively affects or impacts other people's lives. Is it important to intervene and stand up and say NO to people who use abusive tactics to scare, frighten or suppress others?

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Recent Answers from Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence

2016-05-05 Is this emotional abuse?:

Thank you for writing and getting some ideas of what is going on. Your statement of “I used to take insults better” tells me that you have probably been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a very

2015-02-15 Crazy feeling, anxious.nervous:

Hi Kristin,    Thank you for reaching out to get some ideas of what is going on and am very, very sorry that you got hooked up with an abusive man. And yes, you probably already know the answer but just

2014-12-22 confused and brainwashed and unsure!!!HELP:

Hi Sarah,    Thank you for writing and asking what to do. I am very sorry to hear about you being in an abusive and controlling relationship. Sarah, I don’t mean to scare you, but this guy may be dangerous

2014-11-15 a safety plan:

Thank you for writing and asking what is needed in a safety plan. First of all, I am very sorry that you have to deal with such a situation but hope you understand that you are not the only one going through

2014-10-31 my girl:

Open communication as such is ALWAYS good even if it seems stressful! Coming to an understanding and agreement that works for the both of you and STICKING to it is not only good for you but also teaches


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