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Expertise
Human relation is a complex machine. Whether you're feeling hurt and abused, or have fear regarding that you might've hurt someone unknowingly, let us try to understand the problem. By understanding the problem, we can face it, and resolve it. I do not deal in miracle, I deal in reality.
Experience in the area
I have been a counsellor for 10 years. I've done both professional and volunteer work in this field. I came from a vicious family, have walked through abuse, murder attempts, addiction, and much more.
Organizations
Richmond Chimo Crisis Center.
Education/Credentials
Interpersonal/Social Relation Specialist, UBC Socialwork, 2005.
Past/Present Clients
Over 500.
What do you like about this subject?
I always find the human mind to be extremely intricate and fascinating. How it can express joy, sorrow, and pain in thousands of ways. I'm always seeking the truth, the answer, and the "why."
What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?
I wish to help end the suffering of others, and prevent people from abusing those around them.
Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:
Most abusers do not think what they're doing is abusive.
Something controversial or provocative about this subject
Is it the victim's fault if he/she does not reach out for help when abused?
Average Ratings
Recent Reviews from Users
K = Knowledgeability C = Clarity of Response P = Politeness| User | Date | K | C | P | Comments |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Amy | 04/25/12 | 9 | 10 | 10 | Very fast response, a bit too optimistic ..... |
| Robbie | 03/12/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 | |
| Amy | 02/05/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you for your solution :) |
| Tom | 01/29/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you, for taking the time to ..... |
| Alex | 11/11/11 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you it took a few moments ..... |
Recent Answers from Johnny St. Tai
2012-02-15 Am I abusive?:
It sounds more like he is getting addicted to video games- instead of anything you did or did not do. Maybe you mother him too much- making him feel...small...and insecure- because he knows he needs to
2012-01-24 Caught doing it with my cousin. What should we do?:
What you have may be something very special- however, in this society it is seen as wrong and even illegal- so I would recommend to keep it low key and if no one say anything about it, just treat it as
2011-11-11 Grandmother and guilt trips:
Guilt is a funny thing- you're feeling it only because you believe there is guilt to be had. Your grandma is not doing anything wrong- she's doing what most grandmas in her position would do- trying to
2011-11-03 abusive:
Abusers abuse either to controll you, or to make themselves feel big. So when you no longer let them abuse you, they feel small, no longer in controll. Will they hurt themselves? Not likely, even if they
2011-11-01 Is he controlling?:
What you just wrote to me, send that to him- he's controlling and he needs to know what you're going through. If he reads this and finds it distasteful, then he's obviously not the right person for you-
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