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Human relation is a complex machine. Whether you're feeling hurt and abused, or have fear regarding that you might've hurt someone unknowingly, let us try to understand the problem. By understanding the problem, we can face it, and resolve it. I do not deal in miracle, I deal in reality.

Experience in the area

I have been a counsellor for 10 years. I've done both professional and volunteer work in this field. I came from a vicious family, have walked through abuse, murder attempts, addiction, and much more.


Richmond Chimo Crisis Center.


Interpersonal/Social Relation Specialist, UBC Socialwork, 2005.

Past/Present Clients

Over 500.

What do you like about this subject?

I always find the human mind to be extremely intricate and fascinating. How it can express joy, sorrow, and pain in thousands of ways. I'm always seeking the truth, the answer, and the "why."

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

I wish to help end the suffering of others, and prevent people from abusing those around them.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

Most abusers do not think what they're doing is abusive.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

Is it the victim's fault if he/she does not reach out for help when abused?

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Recent Answers from Johnny St. Tai

2013-11-02 Why is she so different now?:

People often vary their story a bit between writing things down and speaking them outloud. When you're writing down an event, you have more time to think, to add things, to imagine things, etc. When you're

2013-02-24 Confused:

Quite possibly what's happening is that he's got alot of suppressed fear/anger that just surfaced at the wrong time.  What you need to do is to let him know that it is not ok, and you do not, will not

2013-02-24 Confused:

Has this kind of thing happen before? Like him yanking you around...push/pulling you, etc?

2013-02-12 My boyfriend is always a victim and always feeling bad for no apparent reason:

Just because he was in the hospital- and even that is a "maybe" with how easy it is to doctor photoes now-a-day...even that was the case, that does not prove he was robbed...it may have been totally unrelated

2013-02-12 My boyfriend is always a victim and always feeling bad for no apparent reason:

Do you have proof that he was robbed? I mean, other than his words, his explainations, do you have the police report, any official proof of any kind?  I hate to say this, but I think you've been conned


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