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I can answer your questions on how to stop being a victim, and/or how to stop being an abuser. My ability to help you, however, would depend on your willingness to assume full responsibility for helping yourself.
From the 1970s to the present, my life has been a search after knowing my purpose, knowing myself, and knowing God. I talk about this search in my 2002 book, "Further Insights Into the Journey". After years of teaching biology at university, I became a radio Family Life Counselor, and a newspaper columnist, responding to callers on radio, and replying to letters from the public, in the newspapers. My book for the adolescent girl, "Girl, It's All About You"(Review & Herald Publishers 1980, and out of print) was my attempt to marry my field of training--biology, and my adoptive field--interpersonal relationships. "Further Insights Into the Journey" is about my search for personal freedom--a search for freedom from external controls; for freedom from fear. Through very instructive experiences, many sorely trying, I uncovered that freedom within me, and found myself progressively experiencing increasingly greater measures of peace. To get your copy of "Further Insights Into The Journey" email me at dreugenia.springer@gmail.com Currently I am the host and producer of the weekly call-in radio program, Life and Living/Soul to Soul. You can access my program on-line at www.power102fm.com.
Certificate in Parenting and Family Life Counseling Certificate in Dianetics Counseling Ph.D. in Zoology (specializing in Biochemical Genetics)
It is not about liking something about the subject. I have assiduously attended to my own growth, my own spiritual development. I am at the place where I care, and share.
I would love to continue learning and sharing; especially learning the many different ways in which people cope with life's issues, and the strategies they successfully use to push past obstacles and move on to increased growth.
Submission to abuse, and display of abusive behavior, can be found in all groups. Sometimes apparently strong, sensible adults cowering in the face of an angry authority figure, mistake the other's cowardice for overpowering strength.
Though the topic 'abusive relationships' is often gender weighted, and often approached out of a consideration of physical, and emotional abuse, when considering the roots of the abusive relationship, there is often no clearcut distinction between who is abuser and who is abused.
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...though he's admitted to me it's because he's insecure. with some personal issues and depressed. He'd say he had no feelings, sense of guilt for anything, nothing. He'd say he really cared about
Stacy, It is not easy to stand by and watch a loved one make self- defeating decisions. You can listen to her and feed back to her what you hear her saying or implying. You can suggest she gets into
Dan, I am not clear on who it is you are being guarded with. You said you recently divorced. Are you saying that your ex-wife is tracking you, and continuing the name calling? Do people who know
Amy, are you asking if your husband is over-reacting? No, I do not think he is over-reacting. If he punches, kicks, and curses you, and punches you because his Corvette door gets nicked, I would venture
Nicole, What is important here is not this young man's motivation. Obviously, the person you describe, has deep issues. And if you take his talking for ten minutes with someone else while in your
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