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I give advice on a variety of crush topics. Now with some experience on my belt, I can confidently help in a majority of crush issues. I have dealt with more uncommon cases including long-distance, age-difference, non-straight orientation, and lengthy crushes, on top of the more normal happenings. I do not have a formula to my answers, but they will all focus on avoiding drama where possible and being the most straightforward. Don't be surprised if you get a 3 page essay on occasion ^^.

Experience in the area

I am currently an undergraduate freshman in college. For perspective, I've been rejected eight times in a row, each through a different way of communication. The total number of times I've tried? Nine. If anyone knows the feeling of heartbreak, being a hopeless romantic, or being a shy person, I probably do. I've also given first-time crush relationship advice several times to various friends and acquaintances from around the world. I am fascinated by their stories, both successful and not, and have refined my perspective of the adolescent life to be less rosy, and more constructive.

Organizations

I have run under my school's Student Government for four years, now serving as PR Director. In a school of 2000 students, its not hard to spot many dramas within government and without. After all, we're all still teens on the inside. I also am part of research within my university's psychology and cognition department.

Education/Credentials

A first year university university student studying cognitive science. I have taken community college extracurricular, including a first-year college psychology course, which is a crucial perspective class. I don't have much experience credential wise, but hopefully my personal experience and expert experience may compensate.

What do you like about this subject?

I love it. I absolutely love it when people share their world with me. It helps expand my world, and appreciate people as a whole. When I'm trying to inform you, I'm actually having a better day because of you ^^.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

I plan to undergraduate as a cognitive science major, computer science minor, hopefully to postgraduate in Artificial Intelligence. I also hope to be more concise, and give people a clear plan. Constructive feedback is always great!

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

The two things that keep every healthy relationship together is compromise and communication. Keep that in mind when crushing or dating. Upon agreeing to receive advice from me, you cannot hold me responsible for any legal troubles that may come your way. Know the law. Finally, be sure to know for every RULE, there is always an EXCEPTION. Take all advice with a grain of salt.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

The friend-zone is silly, "Playing Cool and Hard-to-Get" only works for so long, and there's lust, infatuation, or actual true love. Knowing the difference between these three will be the most important thing you learn in life. Btw, this donate link is obnoxious. Don't think I ever expect donations. Ratings/comments are better ^^


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Recent Answers from Kevin Serrano

2012-05-19 I'm still in love with me ex/ bestfriend D::

Dear Tori,    You may hang out with friends all the time, but when some of those friends constantly remind you of your previous relationship with your ex...that's kind of counter to the healing process

2012-05-18 my crush:

Dear James,        What you should do: do what makes you feel comfortable. Quite simple. Of course be considerate if there's something she dislikes, but for the most part just kick back and do whatever

2012-05-18 I'm still in love with me ex/ bestfriend D::

Dear Tori,        It's really, really, REALLY hard to get over someone you love. It's especially hard in this case, because he broke up with you while you were still in love with him! Your feelings aren't

2012-05-16 Crushing hard:

   Dear Casey,        What seems to be the main problem here is a lack of communication. In sending that text to him, it looks like you didn't assert yourself enough to get a straight answer. More likely

2012-03-09 How to deal with a crush?:

    Dear Alexa,         To forget about him in a healthy manner, there are stages you should see yourself passing through. First you accept your feelings for him and not resist, second you remove items

 

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