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If you are questioning your sexuality and need an anonymous safe place to ask anything about coming out or same-sex experiences, then talk to me. I know when I was coming out I wanted to ask everything from how do I tell my spouse, to how do I ask a woman out. I understand that in some circumstances it can be difficult or impossible to safely ask those questions and anonymous online resources can be invaluable. Areas that really interest me are people with religious backgrounds, people in heterosexual marriages, sexual fluidity, labels and how we use them, but I am open to questions of all kinds.
Experience in the area
I grew up in a conservative Christian home where being straight was the only option ever presented to me. As a result I got married and spent 7 years in a long-term relationship with a man before finally coming out to myself. I came out to my spouse, made several efforts to maintain our marriage but finally got divorced. I managed to preserve my friendship with him, but alienated my family when I came out to them. I have built a strong support group of friends in the LGBTQ community and love talking with them about the wide variety of issues we face, as well as the intricacies of loving women.
Education/Credentials
BA, UC Irvine
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Recent Answers from Coco M Davis
2009-11-15 long distance relationship:
Wow, that's a tough situation. Long distance is hard to do, and a lot can happen while you're apart. It can work, if you are both committed to dealing with the stresses that being apart brings. You might
2009-11-14 Im a lesbian but fantasize mostly about penis's:
Thanks for your question. I'm glad you are open about your attractions and are not limiting yourself. This kind of thing is only confusing when we feel that we have to fit certain rules of sexual identity
2009-11-08 Lesbian but dating a guy...:
Hi there, Thanks for your question. You'll be happy to know this kind of thing is pretty common, its just something we don't talk about much because our society likes us all to be neatly labelled.
2009-11-03 New relationship anxiety:
HI there and welcome to being an adolescent all over again. Except this time you're really feeling the chemistry so its gonna be even more intense. I don't know your age, but it doesn't really matter
2009-11-01 Girlfriend wants to be top:
Dear Worried, You are smart to want to resolve these issues before getting married. Without knowing either of you I can only read between the lines and point out what I see. First of all, most relationships
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