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i obviously can't say if it will work...i don't think you can "ask" about a serious relationship--it either naturally evolves, or it doesn't; under the circumstances, he'll have to become more involved
i think you're foolish to even CONSIDER being wih him; have you forgotten?--he married/had a kid with another woman; what does that tell you as to his feelings about YOU?.."trapped"? you don't marry someone
arrangement, i.e.,the nature of the relationship; from what you said, he likes the built in freedom and my guess is he'd have no qualms (like MANY guys) of using it to his advantage; not to mention, your
sure, if you presented your case in front of a panel of pragmatists, they'd probably agree, but you're dealing with a less rational, emotional female with a different perspective, so u need a softer approach
no right, wrong or unfair here--you both have reasonable viewpoints, based upon your own personal preferences; keep in mind, 6+ months of sporadic time together is not alot; next, your compromise really
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