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sure, if you presented your case in front of a panel of pragmatists, they'd probably agree, but you're dealing with a less rational, emotional female with a different perspective, so u need a softer approach
no right, wrong or unfair here--you both have reasonable viewpoints, based upon your own personal preferences; keep in mind, 6+ months of sporadic time together is not alot; next, your compromise really
you need to elicit more from her as to how she stands as to you/the relationship; certainly given the circumstances her distraction is understandable, but it shouldn't necessarily mean the relationship
you're in over your head--being the needier party isn't where you want to be; no one can predict what's gonna happen, but you CAN make some adjustments to put yourself in a better position; lower expectations
unfortunately, this is 90 percent fantasy--all the texting in the world doesn't make up for seeing each other only ONE time; hopefully you haven't given up meeting/dating others; the bottom line is you
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