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Expert Profile: Joseph Lee O.

Expertise:  Greetings to you! Amidst the insufficiency of all the philosophical, religious and “self-help” approaches to relief from chronic alcoholism, I have personally experienced the content of “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book. Thus, I can now explain at least the essence of the physical, mental and emotional aspects of an alcoholic's inherent condition and plight, and I can show why a spiritual solution is required and how it works and how to attain one.

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The oldest of four boys, I grew up in a religious, Midwestern-USA family. Unable to decline a friendly offer in a social setting, I had "no effective mental defense against the first drink" ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 43), and took my very first drink ever at age 24 ... and within minutes I had become obsessed with getting more of the effect that glass of homemade wine had given me. Alcohol had just done something *for* me that nothing else had ever done; it had seemingly "fixed" something inside me I had not even known was broken. Over the next seven years of my life, I "drank up" just about everything and everyone ever meaning much to me at all, and I eventually abandoned my young family so I could drink and smoke pot at will. For, you see, alcohol was giving me a good-to-go feeling about life and a sense of control I had never before had, and at least in the early days of my drinking it could kill just about any pain that came along. At age 31, however, circumstances and consequences had piled up all around me in ways that were making it obvious I could not continue on much longer. Life had become too tough, my pains had grown too great and the dangers of continuing to drink had become too undeniable for me to be able to continue believing I might ultimately survive an inescapable drop to the bottom of the pit. I still wanted to be able to drink safely as in days past, but something had seemingly "taken over" my drinking and was dragging me completely out-of-control after just one drink. So, and even while completely overwhelmed by the thought of facing life alcohol-free, I decided to stop drinking altogether ... and I quickly discovered I could not. No matter what I said, thought or did even just "one day at a time", I always ended up drinking once again. Where I wanted to drink safely, I could not, and neither could I remain abstinent for very long at all ... and such is the physical "allergy" (where one drink takes another) coupled with alcoholism’s mental-emotional obsession for the effect of alcohol ... ... but then I met a small group of people who personally understood my deadly dilemma - my complete personal powerlessness - and those same folks were quite able to propose a permanent solution. I accepted, of course, and today it is as if I "could not drink even if [I] would" ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 57), and for that I now remain unendingly grateful.

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What do you like about this subject?  The matter of permanent recovery is objectively subjective without being selective! There is a reason alcoholism is not limited to old men in alleys and it "involves those about us in a way no other human sickness can" ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 18), and there is a reason the solution is identical for the afflicted and the affected.
What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?  It would be a tremendous blessing to find a way to break through to the real alcoholic now floundering in today's sea of ineffective “treatments” and misinformation, and to similarly reach his or her family, associates and friends with a matchless manner of living.
Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:  As real as it is, and as surely as it needs to be addressed, alcoholism is nevertheless but a point of contact leading toward resolution of a far greater issue: reconciliation with the sovereign Creator of all.
Something controversial or provocative about this subject  Whenever money changes hands, permanent recovery goes out the window. Hence, "Keep coming back!" is the monotonous mantra the allegedly recovering-ing-ing-ing alcoholic or addict hears throughout today's AA and the entire "treatment industry" producing virtually nothing useful at all.
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Thank you so much for your prompt and considerate response. I must say, just reading the words brought tears to my eyes. Thank god for you and preciou
(Maria on 07/03/09)
I can not thank you enough for answering me so quickly. I really was thinking that maybe I was making a bigger issue out of this situation than neede
(Lisa on 06/23/09)
Thank you for the timely response and the ideas that I can take forward. Much appreciated.
(Nick on 06/24/09)
Thanks so much! Very sensitive, prompt, professional response. I really appreciate your help.
(sarah on 06/02/09)
you gave a very thoughtful answer thank you i will be asking follow ups.
(jamie on 05/07/09)
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Recent Answers from Joseph Lee O.
2009-07-03  Dealing with shame and regret Greetings to you, Maria. You have written: >> I wish I had a friend to talk with who could understand my situation. >> I feel really lonely and confused. Please help me. You are welcomed to talk...
2009-06-29  why did I over react when drunk? Greetings to you, Rai. You have asked: >> why did I over react when drunk? In an overall sense, your otherwise-usual inhibitions had been released or disengaged by the alcohol, then something...
2009-06-24  Living with a drunk Greetings to you, Linda. You have written: >> I am miserable! >> Am I supposed to live the rest of my life like this? No, and if I were you, I would be talking to my children and asking for a...
2009-06-23  alchoholic partner, leave or stay? what to do? Greetings again, Lisa. You have written: >> ... in the morning he will not remember a whole conversation we had. >> Then he will say things to cover it up or make a joke of it. >> Is he losing...
2009-06-22  alchoholic partner, leave or stay? what to do? Greetings to you, Lisa. I have a mental picture of your dilemma, and please allow me to comment as I again read through your letter ... You have written: >> He is a Vietnam vet who does not discuss...
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