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I'm good at listening, even better at giving advice.
Virginity does matter! And no sex before marriage is possible, regardless of what your friends, family, or (worst of all) society tell you. It's a choice, like any thing else in life. Not an easy one, so that's why I'm here to help.
I'm happy to answer your questions:
- WHY you should stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW you can stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW to deal with boy or girl friends pushing you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with friends who push you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with a family who won't support you in your choice of abstinence
If you want to know about some thing, ask an expert, right? If you're climbing a steep and dangerous mountain, who would you ask for advice about where to go? Another climber that's no further up than you, and is struggling? Or the fella who's been all the way to the top, and lived to tell about it?
The latter is me.
As to sex before marriage, "Been there, HAVEN'T done that".
In short, I made it to marriage with out having sex, in spite of many temptations, so any one can - including you.
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I have several years experience owning and managing two businesses, an Internet Access Provider (www.PalouseNet.com) and a Commercial Art Studio (www.KimballMedia.com). Every day I'm forced to make difficult decisions that will affect my life for years to come - just like the decision to not have sex before marriage will affect you.
See my web sites.
Virginity held until marriage is important to me. The world is in moral free fall, and staying a virgin until marriage can keep you from being dragged under with every one else. Heck, it may even save your life, no joke.
Hoping to help others when they reach that agonizing cross roads where they feel pressure, from with in or with out, to give it up.
Sleeping together before marriage DOES NOT increase your chances of staying together long term, regardless of what modern society says. "Test driving" your partner actually increases your chances of a break up! No lie, stats from, of all people, the U.S. Federal Government.
Contrary to popular belief, people who don't have sex before marriage can be VERY sexual after wards. And vice versa is true, just because some one had sex before marriage does not make them a great lover after you tie the knot.
Two really big lies I just HAD to expose.
There. Now I feel better.
| User | Date | K | C | T | P | Comments |
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| sakhi | 11/04/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | thakx |
| farrukh | 11/04/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | thnx |
| Brett | 10/21/09 | 9 | 9 | 9 | 9 | |
| Switchfootgirl | 10/08/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you so very much!Very helpful! |
| "Natalie" | 10/05/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you so much for all the ..... |
Hello Yteria, You question is missing some thing, doesn't quite make sense. Did you mean "Why are they ashamed"? or "Should they be ashamed"? If so, they shouldn't be ashamed of being a virgin.
Hi Marie, You are soooo good for not putting it out for him. That says a HUGE amount about your self respect. Don't give in, you are absolutely doing the right thing. Your boy friend is the luckiest
Hi Christa, You posted in the wrong place, I'm here to help people hold on to their virginity until they get a life long commitment. Obviously it's too late for that now, and your dilemma is exactly
Hi Rosio, Your cousin is evil, stay away from her. She cares nothing about any one but her self. That said, why don't you marry the guy you love, the one you used to be with? What's stopping you?
Hello Katie, Well, you certainly sound more mature than the average 17 year old. And I have the deepest respect that you've made it this far as a virgin. Every thing so far says you are a remarkable

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