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I have been in the BDSM scene for 25 years. I am a prodomme with a specialty of medical play. I give demonstrations on safe, sane and consensual play in the area of play: sounds, needle play, medical,saline infusions,sterile procedure,fisting,fire,knife and RACK edge play.
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So much really depends on the relationship you have with your partner. BDSM can be a separate part of someone's life so you will have to weigh in how you feel about it. If you can deal with it because
The vast majority of BDSM practitioners lead perfectly normal vanilla lifestyles outside the bedroom and in public. The 24/7 total power exchange (TPE)that you read about is a very small minority of the
Hot sauce won't injure him permanently but it is quite severe. As long as he does not swallow feces he will be fine, swallowing urine will not harm him as it is basically inert and sterile. Use sterile
You are already a bit in the extreme and if you keep up the way you are going, he will learn to endure more than you can give. I'd suggest you visit some toy sites for ideas and devices such as www.extremerestraints
If he's hard-wired into it as are most, you can save yourself a lot of grief by ending the relationship. You are vanilla and he's into something you'll never understand or want to participate in and it's
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