I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.
I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,
Not relevant; private consults remain so.
This lifestyle is a cornucopia of experiences far from the field of what is consider the "norm". Yet, it is one of the few lifestyles that based on total honesty and trust. It is the nature of total trust that underpins the relationships, and this requires an essential commitment to total honesty.
Every day brings new experiences, and challenges. I believe having a mature poly relationship, there is always new things to learn for both Dominant and submissive. To stop learning and growing is to wither and die. The one thing as time marches on the limits all of us have simply fall away.
The biggest thing for me is that this is not about the sex, or the discipline or even the kink. It is an emotional commitment and existence between the members and partners. There is a near spiritual state that can be reach in much of the activities (I hate the word play because it implies a lack of seriousness or this is NOT just a game).
Too many of us claim limits to appease the social norms even today. It is the freedom from these norms that gives this lifestyle if open acceptance of all things in the human condition. In the absence of good and evil there only is an existence; which is neither moral or immoral.
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devon A rather unique situation, which is a first for me in all of these years. Typically sub/slaves have a sense of reluctance to use safe words for fear of disappointing their Master. That is actually
Byron Gawd it is an age old problem for us, particularly in a poly setting. Overtime the subjects start to gain more focused on a pseudo traditional relationship and as such become competitive. If not
James... Are you serious? I mean really dominance is not a game which you turn on and play at. Dominance is a way of living. The mere fact you asked the question shows you do not think you are able
e Clearly the relationship is not working for you, and his inconsistency is a sign of his disinterest. You probably have become a convenience item to him. So dealing with the latter first; you have
You have run into the classic issue with online relationships. The other is there is really is no way to verify that what is done is done to your specification. I think anything you do in person could
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