Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.
I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.
My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin
I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.
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William - A relationship contract is not legally binding. It's greatest value (in my opinion) is to outline each person's needs and expectations and (hopeful) foster open discussion. It can also be
There is no limitation on what can or can't be done -- so on paper, there is nothing crazy about you being married to one person and submissive to another. Similarly, there is nothing unusual or impossible
Tealeaf - Let's start by backing up. I wanted to clarify that there are plenty of people that have romantic relationships that also engage in BDSM activities. And there are plenty of romantic relationships
Tyra - There are a lot of benefits of an international hierarchical, authority-based relationship: * Responsibilities and obligations are clear; * the power within the dynamic is intentional and
Elaine - You're frazzled, and it's not surprising -- you've discovered a previously hidden part of you, you've experience "new relationship energy," and you've had the pain of a misaligned relationship
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