Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.
I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.
My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin
I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.
|Natasha||03/06/17||10||10||10||Concise and excellent advice|
|Iris||02/19/17||10||10||10||Thank you so much for the reply .....|
|sandra||12/27/16||10||10||10||Thank You Sir for Your insight.|
|Gloria||12/23/16||10||10||10||Again Ben has been very helping .....|
You're not the only person to struggle with this question -- not because there are many "failing" in a D/s relationship, but because they aren't giving voice to their needs or are trying to live a fantastical
Sandra - This really isn't about what is "normal" in an M/s relationship. Rather, the question is what is acceptable for you. Trust is a critical component of any relationship, but even more so
William - A relationship contract is not legally binding. It's greatest value (in my opinion) is to outline each person's needs and expectations and (hopeful) foster open discussion. It can also be
There is no limitation on what can or can't be done -- so on paper, there is nothing crazy about you being married to one person and submissive to another. Similarly, there is nothing unusual or impossible
Tealeaf - Let's start by backing up. I wanted to clarify that there are plenty of people that have romantic relationships that also engage in BDSM activities. And there are plenty of romantic relationships
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