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Ben Martin

U.S.

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Expertise

Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

Experience in the area

For the past 15 years I have been in a Master/slave relationship. Because of conflicting family and work obligations, we spend only part of our time physically together (which also enables me to discuss challenges and techniques in long-distance relationships). In addition to my slave, grace, I have also had a gay male serve under me and have had a variety of play partners as well as prior D/s relationships.

Publications

My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin

Education/Credentials

I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.

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Recent Reviews from Users

User	Date	K	C	P	Comments
Chris	04/05/12	10	10	10	Thank you your answer was very helpful .....
Hime	02/21/12	10	10	10
Hime	02/17/12	10	10	10

Recent Answers from Ben Martin

2012-05-05 Long Distance issues:

The feelings you have are heightened by the relationship being long-distance, but it's important for you to realize that it may not change if you're living in the same town. It appears he enjoys multiple

2012-05-05 where do i fit:

Janelle -- While there are some people that knew from an early age they were kinky, it isn't uncommon to discover this interest later in life. The problem, as you've realized, is that frequently we've

2012-04-23 a slave states away.:

How wonderful that you've found something that speaks to your core -- and someone to explore that with. In reading your leader, your enthusiasm is clear. That's a good thing. But it also creates some

2012-04-05 BDSM .. Dom with a couple:

Chris -- I understand your concern. To date, your "activities" have involved both of you and your wife seems to be suggesting something that might not include you. On the positive side, she brought

2012-04-03 What do u prefer:

Jenny - I'm glad you found my response helpful, and I'm flattered that you consider me someone you'd like to talk with more. Unfortunately, I don't have the time to engage in an extended discussion

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