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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

Experience in the area

I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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Black Rose

Publications

My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin

Education/Credentials

I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.

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Sandra11/25/16101010Thank you for the advice and good .....
Iris11/08/16101010Thanks so much for the quick reply! .....
Gaby09/24/16101010Thank you for the quick response. It .....
Peanut08/19/16101010Thank you. I appreciate the confirmation that .....
Tealeaf 07/26/16101010Very quick reply. Insightful. Did not placate .....

Recent Answers from Ben Martin

2016-10-12 Review of Contract:

William -    A relationship contract is not legally binding. It's greatest value (in my opinion) is to outline each person's needs and expectations and (hopeful) foster open discussion. It can also be

2016-08-17 Platonic Power Exchange:

There is no limitation on what can or can't be done -- so on paper, there is nothing crazy about you being married to one person and submissive to another.  Similarly, there is nothing unusual or impossible

2016-07-26 Hiding true intentions from sub:

Tealeaf -    Let's start by backing up.  I wanted to clarify that there are plenty of people that have romantic relationships that also engage in BDSM activities.  And there are plenty of romantic relationships

2016-07-13 new sub:

Tyra -    There are a lot of benefits of an international hierarchical, authority-based relationship:    * Responsibilities and obligations are clear;  * the power within the dynamic is intentional and

2016-02-19 New to DaddyDom/little world:

Elaine -    You're frazzled, and it's not surprising -- you've discovered a previously hidden part of you, you've experience "new relationship energy," and you've had the pain of a misaligned relationship

 

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