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I will answer questions related to long term Master/slave relationships.

Experience in the area

We have been married since 2007, and I collared her on November 1, 2008. My slave and I are married, monogamous, and committed to each other. My relationship with my slave is based on mutual love, respect, and frankly fun. Race Bannon has said "if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong." We are having lots of fun so we must be doing something right! My slave is an intelligent (BS in Mathematics actually), and strong women who chooses to put her power into my service and, perhaps seemingly paradoxically as she is my submissive, my equal. She is my slave, my wife, my best friend, and my only lover. I respect her for her ability to submit and truly believe that it takes more strength to submit then to dominate. She follows, but not blindly.

Organizations

Masters and Slaves Together - Marysville (Washington) (founding director) MAsT International - Assistant Northwest Regional Representative 2015, Regional Representtive 2016 BDSM Writers Workshop (April 2016) http://bdsmwriterscon.com/

Publications

My essays are on Fetlife under BrianR (https://fetlife.com/users/9389/posts)

Education/Credentials

Engineer (however this probably should be under the category "barriers your slave has overcome")

Awards and Honors

With my lovely slave we were Northwest Master and slave 2013

Past/Present Clients

With my slave I have presented at national and international events since 2013. While we enjoy presenting at national events, we find more satisfaction in talking with small groups from Boise ID to Singapore and Hong Kong. Our list of classes is available at

What do you like about this subject?

To some, the idea of have another person in service to you is hard to comprehend. As society moves, however slowly, towards equality, why would someone give themselves so completely that they do little without permission? Because there is joy, satisfaction, and fulfillment in such a life. As she is in service to me, so am I in service to our relationship.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

Learning to be a good Master for her has not been an easy task for either of us. We had few role models, our dynamic is not in popular literature or fiction. and so we struggled to find our own way. If I can share what I have learned then perhaps I can make someone else's path a bit easier.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

If you are not in a happy relationship something needs to be changed.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

I love my slave, I am in a 24/7 relationship with no escape path. I delight when I am with her and miss her when we are apart. We are married, and we have fun. Our relationship rewards us with joy, happiness, emotional intimacy, snd self actualization.

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Recent Answers from BrianR

2016-11-24 Intrigued:

Hi Katherine     Thanks for asking, and providing enough information, makes it much easier!     "When trying to define limits as hard or soft or absolute no's wouldn't I need some knowledge about what

2016-09-24 Is punishment required?:

Thank you for the clarification!    We present a class called "Dealing With Conflict In An Authority Based Relationship" which looks a different ways, some more effective than others, that we can deal

2016-09-20 Is punishment required?:

Hi Morgan, sorry for the delayed response but I'm recovering from surgery and I've been a bit preoccupied for awhile.    I see punishment not as play (sometimes called "funishment") but as failure. Failure

2016-08-24 Wife in D&s relationship with another man:

Sorry to hear this.  BDSM requires informed consent of ALL the parties and, in my opinion, if you have not consented to this then what she is doing has no honor.    Having said that: Have you given you

2016-02-08 After effects:

We (kinsters) used to talk about Safe, Sane, and Consensual, Kink but many said "What is - sane?" I hit my slave, that is abuse; yet she smiles from the pleasure which flows through her from that act.

 

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