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Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.
31 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.
Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder).
Alt Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".
, Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.
The diversity of different types of play, as well as the People in the lifestyle, which varies from blue collar workers to the elite of society.
My wife and I intend on becoming the Midwests Premier Dominant couple in the Lifestyle.
Lifestylers are NOT a dark and dangerous people. Quite the opposite, We are very careful in what We do, always siding with safety before all else. Those who come to Us do so willingly, knowing what they do. We do not seek out others to "turn" them, but in all ways have informed, consensual agreements with the subs or slaves We scene with.
The lifestyle is not about "Tie me down and sex me", nor is it just "Rack em and wack em", but encompasses so much more! Those who are interested in the lifestyle really should experience it first hand. To not do so does one a serious disservice. In my opinion, the bd/sm relationship goes much deeper than marriage in amny aspects.
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I'd say it's time for some serious conversation, to find out EXACTLY what each of Y/you like and want out of this relationship. Realize, you can't force Her to become your Dominant, you must CONVINCE
Alt may be commercial, but as far as their chat goes, I've not seen anything better, so it seems You may be stuck with it. Collarme's chat is too primitive, and hard to read, and Fetlife doesn't even have
I would check online at such places as The Stockroom, or the like. There are many reputable dealers online now days, if You look for them. As for wax, I use paraffin candles. They burn at a low temperature
That would depend on the individuals involved. To some, the collar, even though a nice visual reminder, is nothing more than just that. To them, their collar resides in their heart, where their gift of
I would say it's time for some exploration of each other for a while. Try both ways, with you as Top, say, for a month, then try it the other way around. Explore! This is part of what BD/SM is about.
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