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Questions relating to coming out to friends and family, social issues, issues in the workplace, relationship issues, issues relating to gay life in general. Issues relating to gay sex, protection and sexually transmitted infections and worries about first time gay sex. I can also answer questions in relation to being gay and religion.

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I am a 30 year old gay man and have been out since I was 15 at high school. Although I am not religious, I attended Catholic schools and have experience dealing with pressures religion can place on a gay person. I have a wide variety of friends from all different backgrounds, races, sexualities, religions, etc. I have also had several relationships, am sexually experienced and have an understanding of relationship issues and dilemmas, sexual issues and experience of the gay scene. Although I have plenty of experience of the gay scene, I am not personally interested/involved in it anymore. Most of my current friends are actually straight males and I'm not particularly involved in any scene at all. Therefore, I can quite easily talk to guys about issues they would rather not associate with "gay" - confusion, bi-curious issues and just normal uncertainties men might have. I have no promblem discussing issues with anyone regardless of sexuality or gender, etc. (within reason of course).


Occupation - NHS Scotland (National Health Service Scotland) - part-time. Part-time study.


Currently studying BA Honours in English Language & Literature and have previously studied Psychology at university level. Four A's at Higher level Psychology, Sociology, Philosophy and English.

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2016-07-08 why is this?:

Hi Jeff.    The lining of the anus and rectum are thin and can be more easily damaged than the lining of the vagina. Lubrication is also important as the rectum doesn't produce a natural lubricant in the

2016-06-25 inquiry:

Hi Jeff.    I don't think you are delusional, but I think you probably jumped the gun a bit sending a letter to his house. If you emailed him and he didn't reply after a few days, you probably should have

2015-11-02 Uhh... how gay am I?:

Hi Will     I suppose if you were to say to me you find half the men in your college attractive and only one girl, i would probably assume you were bi or gay. However, it depends on what you mean by "attractive"

2015-09-09 Is it sinful:

Hi Akash.    Being gay is now generally believed to be an inherent trait people are born with. From my own experience, it certainly wasn't a choice, just something that's always been part of who I am.

2015-07-21 inquiry:

Hi Jeff.    It is possible to contract HIV through oral sex. It's unlikely, but entirely possible. The chances are increased if you have blood contact. If you have abrasions in your mouth (including "bleeding


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