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Adriaan Pretorius

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Any questions on how to come out, handling people close to you, handling the pressures of being gay in society, going out, seeking a partner, etc. are welcome. I live in South Africa and may have a unique perspective on gay live, as gays do not live openly and have been scorned for a long time here. If you need to speak to someone, and no one wants to listen, I will try my best to be a friend when you have none.

Experience in the area

I am a gay male who have lived the life as someone that had to hide it from everyone for a long time until coming out some years back. I know how it feels to be 'in' and 'out' and have had diverse experiences in relationships. I have had friends who hated gay life, gay bashers, friends who understood me.

Education/Credentials

I have a postgraduate degree in Science. I have worked together with and currently work with homosexual and heterosexuals in my environment.

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Bruno01/11/12101010very attentive and precise.
Mary12/24/11101010Adriaan, Thank you for answering my question .....
Jeff12/14/11101010 
Mike11/27/11101010Thank you so much Adriaan. You've put .....
Amit11/13/111010Thanks a million.

Recent Answers from Adriaan Pretorius

2012-02-05 Bisexuality:

Dear Jason    One's sexuality is no one business, that's the short answer.  Straight people don't go around telling others they like the opposite sex and if we expect any kind of normal reaction to our

2012-01-29 preventing a breakup:

Hello Alvin    The short answer is this: you cannoy force someone to be in a relationship.  If he wants out, you need to respect that.  He obviously has some valid reasons (or at least HE thinks so), so

2011-12-23 Straight woman/gay man issue?:

Hello Mary    I know the term fag hag sounds quite derogatory, but it's actually just a nice rhyming term, and guys like your friend actually mean it in a good way.  It's coveted title you know! ;-)  It

2011-12-18 different pleasure:

Hi Bruno    In sexual intercourse many things get triggered and happen, it's quite a complex process, but one of these is our sexual organs getting ready to procreate.  Part of this process is the vagina

2011-11-18 They think I'm a girl:

Hey there Luca    We are sometimes forced to live in a certain kind of way, because that is what the world and society wants us to be.  It's unfortunate that we are so obsessed with what other people think

 

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