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Any questions on how to come out, handling people close to you, handling the pressures of being gay in society, going out, seeking a partner, etc. are welcome. I live in South Africa and may have a unique perspective on gay live, as gays do not live openly and have been scorned for a long time here. If you need to speak to someone, and no one wants to listen, I will try my best to be a friend when you have none.
I am a gay male who have lived the life as someone that had to hide it from everyone for a long time until coming out some years back. I know how it feels to be 'in' and 'out' and have had diverse experiences in relationships. I have had friends who hated gay life, gay bashers, friends who understood me.
I have a postgraduate degree in Science. I have worked together with and currently work with homosexual and heterosexuals in my environment.
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Hey hey buddy! Boy you have it hard, hehe! I am not laughing at you, k? I'm laughing at this absolutely fantastic adventure you are on! I remember my first guy, those butterflies. those rushes.
Hello there B I will call you that, because you didn't make your question private, so it might be 'published' of sorts on the website, if the administrators think it's what they're looking for, which
Hello again Ryan Two words: Get out! It doesn't matter how good it feels when you two are together, you should be feeling the same way when you're NOT together, if that makes sense. Let me try and
Hey again Chris! I must again say, you could be my twin where emotional responses and things go. I too like it more to be in control of my immediate environment and it even went so far as to my default
Hey there Chris! While reading your letter I wondered just how tough your filters were to get through. It's not about your introvertedness (is that a word?), because I too am more of a shy guy (why
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