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Any questions on how to come out, handling people close to you, handling the pressures of being gay in society, going out, seeking a partner, etc. are welcome. I live in South Africa and may have a unique perspective on gay live, as gays do not live openly and have been scorned for a long time here. If you need to speak to someone, and no one wants to listen, I will try my best to be a friend when you have none.
I am a gay male who have lived the life as someone that had to hide it from everyone for a long time until coming out some years back. I know how it feels to be 'in' and 'out' and have had diverse experiences in relationships. I have had friends who hated gay life, gay bashers, friends who understood me.
I have a postgraduate degree in Science. I have worked together with and currently work with homosexual and heterosexuals in my environment.
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Hello Ryan What you're feeling is heartache. It's not a nice feeling. I am so sorry that this had to happen... As I have said before, I think you ran away with this in your head a little too fast
Hey again Ryan! Talking about feelings and love is never ramblings, so relax! This is what life is about, buddy :) The butterflies, the tongue-tiedness (that a word?), the turning to custard when
Hey there! On the one hand 'the people' are right, you should be choosing yourself what feels right for you, wanting to be with a girl or a guy, but on the other hand, it should not be in the forefront
Hey hey buddy! Boy you have it hard, hehe! I am not laughing at you, k? I'm laughing at this absolutely fantastic adventure you are on! I remember my first guy, those butterflies. those rushes.
Hello there B I will call you that, because you didn't make your question private, so it might be 'published' of sorts on the website, if the administrators think it's what they're looking for, which
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