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I can answer questions regarding gender issues having lived as both lesbian and gay. I can also address relationship questions being in a 14 year polyamorous relationship.
I am a trans (Female to Male) and have been in that community for the past 17 years and have presented in College/University classes as well as maintaining a website with links and information regarding gender issues [http://www.otherbear.com]
I've written articles for gender publications and have contributions in Bears on Bears by Ron Suresha (Los Angeles: Alyson Publications, 2002), Academy: Tales of the Market Place by Laura Antoniou (New York: Mystic Rose Books, 2000), "I Am Neither Man Nor Woman" Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue, ed. Leslie Feinberg (Boston: Beacon Press, 1998), "Holding My Breath Under Water" Looking Queer , ed. Dawn Atkins (Hayworth Press, 1998), "Boundaries: Gender and Transgenderism," The Second Coming , eds. Pat(rick) Califia and Robin Sweeney (San Francisco: Alyson Publications, 1996), and "Packing, Passing & Pissing," Dagger , eds. Lily Burana, Roxxie, and Linnea Due (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1994). Appearance in Transmen & FTMS: Identities, Bodies, Genders & Sexualities by Jason Cromwell (University of Illinois Press, 1999), etc.
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| Pedro | 10/23/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thanks a lot, it feels really good ..... |
| Lily | 10/17/09 | 7 | 10 | 10 | 10 | He's okay. |
| Jonathan | 10/13/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you for your advice. I'll stick ..... |
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Dear Kim: The fact that your husband has handsome features that remind you of women, is inclined to cleanliness, and cares how he looks, and is scared of gay men does not indicate any attraction whatsoever
Dear Smith: I'm sure that there are counseling services available, but it would depend on where you live or where you happen to be traveling to. You need more than a general counselor given the cultural
Dear Pedro: There is too much risk on a variety of levels to proceed. As you mentioned, if you happen to be reading the signals wrong or even if they are right and he freaks out, then you are no longer
Dear Lily: Thank you for your question. Perhaps you just haven't met the right woman or it could be that your attraction is simply a fantasy. I can't tell whether you are a lesbian or not. It sounds
Dear Naomi: A two year difference is nothing to worry about. My partner is 9 years older than I am. I know a heterosexual couple where she is 14 years older than he is. It's clearly not the 2 year

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