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I can answer questions regarding gender issues having lived as both lesbian and gay. I can also address relationship questions being in a 14 year polyamorous relationship.
I am a trans (Female to Male) and have been in that community for the past 17 years and have presented in College/University classes as well as maintaining a website with links and information regarding gender issues [http://www.otherbear.com]
I've written articles for gender publications and have contributions in Bears on Bears by Ron Suresha (Los Angeles: Alyson Publications, 2002), Academy: Tales of the Market Place by Laura Antoniou (New York: Mystic Rose Books, 2000), "I Am Neither Man Nor Woman" Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue, ed. Leslie Feinberg (Boston: Beacon Press, 1998), "Holding My Breath Under Water" Looking Queer , ed. Dawn Atkins (Hayworth Press, 1998), "Boundaries: Gender and Transgenderism," The Second Coming , eds. Pat(rick) Califia and Robin Sweeney (San Francisco: Alyson Publications, 1996), and "Packing, Passing & Pissing," Dagger , eds. Lily Burana, Roxxie, and Linnea Due (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1994). Appearance in Transmen & FTMS: Identities, Bodies, Genders & Sexualities by Jason Cromwell (University of Illinois Press, 1999), etc.
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| Zoe | 04/27/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Very kind and understanding. |
| Alexander | 04/23/12 | 9 | 9 | 10 | |
| Daren | 04/18/12 | 9 | 8 | 9 | |
| Adam | 03/18/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thanks, Michael! Your answers have been very ..... |
| Sam | 01/13/12 | 10 | 10 | 10 |
Dear Allison: I have no clue why straight men are deluded enough to believe that they can change lesbians. Perhaps they think that if they go to a bar and a woman drinks enough that she will spend
Dear Alexander: I'm sorry that you are confused and wish that I had an easy answer for you or something that would definitively allow you to say "yes I am __________ (fill in the blank)". It is hard
Dear Alexander: Thank you for sharing your situation with me. I had a very similar question recently. As far as I am concerned porn does not dictate sexual orientation, actually having sex does.
Dear Daren: From my view, porn is just porn. As you now know other people do not feel that way. You could try watching straight porn even though it takes longer or using your imagination in the interim
Dear Adam: Effects of testosterone on FTMs is very different than non-trans men. Deepening of the voice is caused by thickening of the vocal cords. In a non-transman this would have already occurred
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