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Polyamory/Expert Profile
Expertise
I will answer questions on the subject of Polyamory, including Polyfidelity and other variations.
Experience in the area
I "came out" as poly in 1997, though I've felt my poly side strongly for a couple decades longer than that.
Organizations
I am the founder of PAARC, the Polyamory Awareness & Acceptance Ribbon Campaign. I have also belonged to two local poly organizations.
What do you like about this subject?
For me, polyamory is the only "natural" type of loving relationship paradigm. I honestly don't understand how people can "turn off" the ability to love others when they're in a relationship. Polyamory is about freedom... not sexual freedom, but emotional freedom.
What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?
I hope to see the day when poly relationships are not as stigmatized as they currently are.
Average Ratings
Recent Reviews from Users
K = Knowledgeability C = Clarity of Response T = Timeliness P = Politeness| User | Date | K | C | T | P | Comments |
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| bappa | 10/29/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | |
| Marie | 08/30/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you so much! |
| Jeff | 08/13/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | |
| Cindy | 03/26/09 | 7 | 8 | 10 | 10 | I found I had a hard time ..... |
| Chantelle | 02/25/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you so much... you actually did ..... |
Recent Answers from Vincent M. Wales
2009-11-06 Poly problem:
Hi, Tony... Obviously, without knowing anything more than the paragraph you wrote, I really can't make any sort of thorough analysis. But it doesn't sound good. Some people (mainly, but not exclusively
2009-10-07 Becoming poly to keep my relationship?:
Kay: Yikes. What a miserable situation. Let me just toss a few thoughts your way, and please bear in mind that I'm not exactly the most objective person, here. I have my own views on relationships
2009-09-08 should i let him go:
Not quite sure what you're asking, Jill. You state that you've tried to leave in the past but that he "won't allow it." Unless he's holding you captive, you CAN leave. Since you don't, it gives the
2009-08-14 Breaking free from monogamy:
Hi, Amy. This is, sadly, a pretty familiar scenario for many couples who embark down the poly path. It's quite natural for him to be afraid, at this point. Of course, it's quite natural for you to
2009-08-13 Child Custody:
Jeff: This is a very sticky situation. On the one hand, the ex may just be posturing. He may be looking for something else, using the threat of filing for custody as a bargaining chip. But, if
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