Celibacy/Abstinence/Expert Profile

Expertise

I can answer any questions regarding suppressing the urge to have sex, how to avoid dangerous sexual encounters, and mental and emotional issues regarding abstinence. We all know that there are times in our lives when we will not be able to engage in sex. There are psychological ways to condition both the mind and body to suppress the desires (without permanent harm), which can lead to a lifetime of fulfillment in other areas of life. Sex addiction is an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, where the brain is "addicted" to the act of sex. After the act, the addict is often not satisfied and craves more. Sometimes, doing the act itself can exacerbate the desire to do it, which can send a person into a viscous cycle of craving and dependency. Breaking the cycle is the key to getting the addict off of the "desire" and on the road to recovery.

Experience in the area

I am one of only a handful of male virgins left in the United States.

Publications

The Real 40 Year-Old Virgin of Orange County (Xlibris 2010)

Education/Credentials

Bachelor of Science, Fordham University

Past/Present Clients

Many of the people who ask for my advice wish to remain anonymous. They are teenagers and young adults who for whatever reason can't discuss abstinence issues with family and friends. I have had a few clients from India, where modern technologies are allowing more people to engage in these issues.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

There are an estimated 4,400 virgins nationwide.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

Having sex is part of being human, yet celibate people are denying themselves this crucial life experience. God gave Eve to Adam and said, "Go forth and multiply." Not procreating is counter to God's plan for us.