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decisions like these should be made with the head, not the heart..obviously, you haven't known him long enough to give up alot, so the question becomes what exactly are you giving up/losing for the chance
why he maintains it isn't important--as i see it, you're wasting your time/emotions, on a fantasy...the sooner you end this time-wasting communication and focus on meeting/dating new people, the better
no magic answers alexandria..finding the right person is challenging for a great many; you have to start by just trying to MEET more people; this can be done by joining groups/clubs of interest to you
seems like HE had no problem letting go..maybe that fact will help; the best decisions are based on thought, not feeling; he's wrong--just because you love someone doesn't/shouldn't mean you overlook everything
how far is the distance?..how often do you see him?..what kinds of things do you do together?
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