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expertise: over 7000 questions answered...B.A. Psychology Bates College;graduate study, Fordham Univ. School Social Work; technical editor, "dating for dummies", 2d edition, by dr joy browne; thoughtful consideration of your question, then insightful advice about love,romance and related issues given in an objective, non-judgmental manner...over 20 years of personal experience in both short and long term relationships...longer term consultations are available upon request...life experience: personal involvement in many relationships where issues of love, sex, intimacy, trust, etc., had to be dealt with and resolved...just having "experiences", however, isn`t enough...it`s the thoughtful reflection upon and analysis of what happened and why, that leads to learning and enlightenment...so tell me what`s on your mind and i`ll try to help, or tell you if i can`t...thanks
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Over 20 years personal experience in dating, including both short and long-term relationships.Thoughtful reflection and analysis upon same, as well as providing imput relating to issues of love and romance to friends and acquaintances.
BA, Psychology, Bates College, Lewiston, Me. Graduate study at Fordham University School of Social Work.
Life experience can really be the only teacher in this area; however going through the experience is not enough. What is necessary is a real awareness, sensitivity to, and reflection upon what has happened, what has been lost, what has been gained. Getting beyond one's own insecurities and subjectivities, and seeing the experience in the context of the bigger picture, are essential stepping stones to learning and loving.
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technical editor, "Dating for Dummies", 2d edition, by dr joy browne..bio update: over 7000 questions answered..
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Recent Answers from Azure
2009-11-16 simple..:
it you're gonna worry about "tension", or "hurt feelings", nothing will change; people are responsible for their OWN feelings, and for considering your reasonable complaints; figure out what your REQUIREMENTS
2009-11-14 feelings for ex girlfriend:
the "difference" makes no difference; it's not surprising to consider past loves special, hold fond feelings for; but the bottom line is, this is romantically over, and that you need to put it behind you
2009-11-14 Confused:
ok, here's the reality--the most this can ever be is a friendship--one of the many problems with internet relationships is that there is no substitute for in person interaction and the information gotten
2009-11-13 feelings for ex girlfriend:
first, lower expectations to zero; next, resist all impulses to express heavy emotions-i'd suggest a card or email, friendly, basically saying u were thinking about her, wondering how she was doing...hopefully
2009-11-07 it's over:
i'd respectfully disagree with the psychologist; the bottom line is, the only thing left to happen here is you're abandoning all hope/moving on; the girl dated you a few times, realized, for whatever reason
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