General Dating Questions/Expert Profile

Expertise

A combination of the study of human behavior, the psychology behind those actions, interviews and 6 years of daily fieldwork. Behavior, for both genders, is often about unspoken feelings, underlying motives and patterns. Learning to recognize what you're seeing in others and how to interpret the meaning will tell you what people are really thinking and why they're acting as they are. Understanding others is also about what is said and what isn't, what words are used and which ones aren't. The devil, it is said, is in the details. Subtleties matter. They often determine whether you connect as you desire, have disharmony or nothing at all with someone. If you are knowledgeable, naturally focused, experienced and perceptive, you can almost predict with certainty what is coming next. Please share what country you live in and if you are comfortable doing so, list the city. Also do me a small effort but big-impact favor and type your questions in more than one paragraph so it's easier to read. Thank you. :) Now on Facebook at Michael's Quick Help and on Twitter at @MichaelsQH.

Experience in the area

Six years of research and hundreds of interviews. A highly attentive listener with strong skills of perception and a student of gender differences and nuances and human behavior. Answering questions around the world.

Publications

Newspaper and radio reporter, talk show host, freelance magazine writer on psychology, behavior and dating as well as an online feature writer on psychology and our daily lives; talk show guest in Atlanta, Georgia and San Francisco, California; just recently interviewed by author and three-time Emmy Award winner, Dr. Carole Lieberman for her newest book. Also now on Facebook at Michael's Quick Help and on Twitter @MichaelsQH.

Education/Credentials

B.A. in communications/public relations. Additional coursework and three radio internships in speech /broadcasting. Fieldwork and library of relationship & psychology literature. Have worked with over 900 people at AllExperts.com (different relationship categories) as well as working with people through personal email and face-to-face.

Past/Present Clients

College and high school students, military, divorced people, office workers (romance on the job), substance abuse in relationships, emotional abuse in relationships, more.

What do you like about this subject?

There is nothing more exciting than meeting new, interesting people and finding out who they are and if there is chemistry between you. The study of relationships and how people think and behave is fascinating and my passion.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

Continue to learn the subtleties about human interaction, the words and actions that occur that tell stories of someone's feelings and needs. There is so much that is unspoken that determines whether a relationship will thrive or go bust. Learning those nuances and sharing them with others is highly rewarding.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

We may be slow or unable to pick up dating or relationship clues. We may also be, sadly, selfish -- both men and women. No one gender has the market cornered on that one. In the end, many people are out for themselves. We are, and should be, highly selective in who we associate with and date. The people we choose to be with can be the frosting on our cake or the poison in our drink.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

We can focus on the risk or reward in stepping out and meeting someone. In the end, I find the reward drives me forward and outweighs the chance of meeting someone who isn't the ideal match. Read your situation quickly, ask yourself if you're interested and then take a deep breath and be bold in going for gold.