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I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.) I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your relationship again.
I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement. Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance. In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
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Hello Mattty, There are two common issues that are taking place in your relationship, causing this difficulty. the first is that you are at the point where you are no longer at the "Honeymoon Stage"
Hello Tina, Well, if you look at when the difficulties began, it was just about a year and a half into your relationship, and research shows us that somewhere between 6 and 18 months into a relationship
Hello again, Jaydee, Just from your response, it appears that he may have issues with commitment. I mean, he's only 23 and he's dated 34 women! That's a lot. You say he's not a player, but isn't that
Hello Bianca, It sounds like you have a few issues going on here: his daughters, your son and the whole "family" thing; him throwing the work issue in your face; him going out drinking and coming home
Hello Leila, So, why are you afraid of rejection? He's telling you he misses you and thinks of you all the time and you two cuddle and flirt. What more do you need? He's pulling out all the stops according
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