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I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.) I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your relationship again.
I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement. Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance. In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
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Hello Jamie, So, it sounds to me like you want to know how to be a bit stronger because you don't want her thinking that she can just come and go and you'll always be there for her...right? Well
Hello again, Byron, That could be it. If that's the case, you need to stop worrying about reaching your parents' standard, or befalling the same fate as your uncle. Instead you need to discover what
Hello again, Byron, What I wonder, though, is why. Can you pinpoint a reason for this fear? It's not always, but very often it stems from something familial. What happened in your family growing up
Hello again, Byron, You don't expect this relationship to last.. and it is. So, subconsciously (or consciously) you are sabotaging it. Sounds like moving into this serious relationship scares you. Your
Hello again, Byron, So, first, now you understand why you might have had those feelings of your relationship betting stale. If you read that report I linked for you, you see that it's very common. It's
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