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I am a teacher and I write books on teen dating, self-esteem, and values. I can answer questions on making healthy choices, self-improvement, liking yourself, relationships and friendships, goal-setting, values, and how to handle making difficult choices.
Today 1 in 5 sexually active people has HPV (linked to cancer and genital warts) and 1 in 4 has Herpes. 90% of girls who do NOT use condoms become pregnant each year, and AIDS cases are on the rise. Those who do not have sex will not have to deal with these issues, nor will 99% of those who use condoms correctly and consistently. In short, abstain from sex or use condoms - and use them correctly. Parents of adolescent and teen girls should research Gardasil, a vaccine against many forms of HPV. You may not think your daughter will be sexually active, but this will also offer her certain health protection in the event of rape - or should she become sexually active.
Lauren, beware. This guy is sending up red flags of abusiveness. Putting himself in situations where he can make you feel like you owe him an apology is a control tactic - a sign of someone who has the
Quentin, I can't answer that. You'll have to talk to her. Don't text. Texting does NOT make for good relationship communication. It's not warm and cannot support body language and other important non-verbal
Chris, you can't fix her. Like I always say, the only thing you can control is YOU. If she's broken, and it sounds like she is, SHE and only SHE can fix it. The best thing you can do for her is to teacher
Kurt, at your age, it is never good to date a sibling's friend. It can mess up their friendship, her relationship with your family, and your relationship with your brother. Just be her friend. Find
Sam, the only thing we can control in lives is ourselves. We can't control if someone likes us, but we can BE the kind of person and of the character that people will like. Beyond that, it's not in our
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