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How to Have an Online Relationship/Expert Profile
Expertise
I am freely able to answer any type of question in respect of expectation, emotional need, desire, living with fantasies and the cold harsh reality that frequently fails to match expectations.
Experience in the area
I formerly advised on this site until about 2002 when physical ill health forced me to withdraw from just about every interest that I had. Previous to allexperts I'd run through the emotional minefield of online relationships myself. Recognising that while a professional may take a keen interest in human motives and behaviour that there isn't a hard and fast template which can be applied to various individual sets of circumstances, regardless of what they want you to believe.
Past/Present Clients
Numerous enquirers using the AllExperts route. I've answered questions regarding religious differences, dealing with the difficulties of addictions and spousal abuse. Age knows no barriers in respect of online relationships and even cultural differences are swept aside, though that can lead too additional difficulties.
What do you like about this subject?
I enjoy helping other people with their difficulties, this in turn, helps me to put my own problems into perspective.
Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:
People who know very little outside of their own sphere's tend to be very judgemental about how 'sad' internet user's must be in order to indulge in an online relationship/friendship. Ignorance and a lack of understanding is hardly something to boast about. Each of us has our own reasons for our indulgences regardless of what those governing factors are.
Something controversial or provocative about this subject
Life itself is a constant learning curve. Well ideally it should be but, upon reflection, each of us makes mistakes. We tend to learn by association condemning anyone who has a similar token appearance to the person who vexed us. This attitude is magnified with online relationships which tend to be more intense in some areas.
Average Ratings
Recent Reviews from Users
K = Knowledgeability C = Clarity of Response T = Timeliness P = Politeness| User | Date | K | C | T | P | Comments |
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| CGLLR | 02/09/09 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Thank you and his name is Ray ..... |
| Matt | 09/08/08 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | helped me sort out my head loads ..... |
| Gabriel | 05/04/08 | 10 | 8 | 9 | 10 | clear, reasonable responses no "sugar coating", but ..... |
| M | 04/29/08 | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | good advice! |
| Tommy | 04/29/08 | 7 | 10 | 8 | 8 | thank you very much for responding, it ..... |
Recent Answers from Rhyn Essence
2009-03-30 online boyfriend:
Hi Sophie, The hard facts will not be easy but you know that already. The answers as to why he behaved in this manner are many and varied. The key to having a successful online relationship is not
2009-02-09 Internet.:
No all you are experiencing is reflective guilt for what he enticed you into doing. Obviously my assumptions here are somewhat blind but take it from me ... whatever he tries to tell you in order to justify
2009-02-09 Internet?:
How about telling me who he is by making this a private reply? For the record you are not in any kind of relationship, regardless of whether its online or not, unless you want to be and wanting to be has
2009-01-11 When should I..:
Hi Matt, Sorry for the delay I thought that I had set my vacation dates only I hadn't. Really the best answer is when it feels right for you and if her interest in you seems as keen. If you do leave
2008-08-21 Lost Love Found?:
Hi Julian, The best advice I can give you is not to concern yourself with other peoples possible perceptions, mine included, just take things slowly even if you don't feel like it. Don't rush into living
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