How to Know if You`re Really in Love/Expert Profile

Expertise

How do we know what locve is, let alone, how to practice it, give it, and receive it? First of all concerns, to have romantic love in the purest, most spiritual and advanced sense, you must be free. This is crucial in experiencing, feeling, and expressing love, and most crucial in inspiring it in a healthy relationship, because true mature love-which is an art, a skill, and a practice--must be felt and expressed by you, and with your own feelings and decisions. This can only occur with the free growth of your own mind, and its spirit. This requires freedom. True mature love occurs only in a young adult or adult mind. One is not an adult unless free. If any one or any thing--a drug, a disease, mental illness, a religion, or government; controling parents or guardians curtial your freedom, you cannot experience or practice true love, which is the free expression of your mind and heart. A free young adult mind or an adult is solely responsible for its decisions and feelings. The first love-choice a free young adult or adult makes is in what cherish to satisfy itself. The first love we experience after loving our family members is thus loving ourselves, and when we are respected by them, our passions are fostered, not blocked. If you can't love WHAT you want and DO what you love, you cannot love WHOM you want, so how can you love another? This is self-love and it is primary. Loving another is an extension of this. Three are instructions for meditation at the bottom.

Experience in the area

I've been fortunate to have helped many people around the world and I love to do it. I will be happy to help you, too, no matter whom you are. If I am busy or unable to help you for any reason, consider these books to help you help yourself: Being Happy, by Andrew Mathews; any booksg by Dr. Wayne Dyer; The Art of Loving, by Dr. Erich Fromm; Love, by Leo Buscaglia, True Love, and Anger, both by Thich Nhat Hanh, The Beloved, and The Prophet, by Khalil Gibran; The Road Less Traveled and People of THe Lie, by Dr. M. Scott Peck. I will add here that I've had intercultural relationships. This adds dimension to the already complex scenario of a relationship. IN your letters to me, I will look for how you look at love, and I'll help you find peace, understand your emotions and what's beneficial among them and how to appreciate your love to create better behavior for a wholesome, love relationship. I might help you meditate, to create the atmosphere in yourself for better communication with your TRUE SELF, and with your beloved, or the one you would like to have a relationship with. I might help you find out if in fact you love someone or not. I may help you see there are precepts (like rules) to love, as there are in religions--for conducting a moral and happy love-life. Learn more about me in my bio, art, photography, essays, poetry, novel in progress, and my memoirs at http://cradleoftheuniverse.wordpress.com Three are instructions for meditation at the bottom.

Organizations

Amnesty International (http://amnesty.org) Three are instructions for meditation at the bottom.

Publications

Korea Herald (http://www.koreaherald.com/national/Detail.jsp?newsMLId=20110601000943), New York Newsday, The Planetary Review, The Long Island Catholic, Wake Up And Laugh (http://wakeupandlaugh.wordpress.com), The Ocean And The Stars (http://bitnacarlo.blogspot.com/), Cradle of The Universe (http://cradleoftheuniverse.wordpress.com/)

Education/Credentials

Raised Christian-with an emphasis on loving all people (Thanks, Mom), and to be politically active (Thanks, Dad). Studied Zen at Hwa Gye Sa Temple, Han Maum Zen & Culture Center, and The Buddhist English Library of Seoul, South Korea. Teacher Training in the U.S. at Berlitz and the Center for English Studies, NYC, and at Inlingua, Princeton. Studied Drawing, Photography, and Painting at the School of Visual Arts, NYC, and basic Psychology at Nassau Community College, Long Island. Fifteen years of experience teaching English as a Second language--many of those years abroad--has helped as well, as people from other cultures help us see ourselves and other human beings in a different light.

Awards and Honors

My reward is knowing I have helped people.

Past/Present Clients

I have taught and counseled people of all ages, experience-levels, professions and religions, and consider myself lucky to have had the opportunity and thankful to those who have shared with me. Every such interaction is a learning experience, and an opportunity for growth and improvement.

What do you like about this subject?

Love is the most important phenomena in human existence and development. All good things human stem from it. It's the most enjoyable emotion to feel, but, it's more than a feeling. Three are instructions for meditation at the bottom.

What do you still hope to achieve/learn in this field?

To inspire honesty, understanding, compassion and to help lovers stay together.

Something interesting about this subject that others may not know:

Love is not shopping for a better person. It's being one so you can love and be loved more. It's emotional and intellectual intelligence, but not logic. It's romantic attraction and decision; practice, not a mere emotion.

Something controversial or provocative about this subject

It's traditionally been permitted and forbidden by kings, parents, priests, clerics. That's wrong. Love is the purest, most righteous phenomenon, and so shouldn't be interfered with. It's learned, and found, and already there. People breaking up after years are likely giving up. Love is as much work as inspiration, if not more.