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so u have to decide--if the cost of this pleasure (giving in to her every whim) is too high, stop giving in...what's your problem??...politeness/timeliness a 1?..not to mention, i gave u the only POSSIBLE
it looks like you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; you have a choice--a) accept the reality that it's over, realize that in this world the are MANY you can love, overcome your
i'm not sure why you're in so much pain--aside from the physical (which can't be THAT important to you, considering you've accepted the non-intimacy for 10 years), you have the best of both worlds, and
not a question of right/wrong...your decision is understandable when viewed objectively; it was partially her responsibility to get her parents to be supportive--she not only didn't do it, she then failed
it's probably a good thing that this happened NOW, rather than after a marriage; at this point, no need to do anything rash; hold off on all talk of future plans, see each other again, see how your feelings

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