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as you inferred, he's probably not gonna admit to anything; i'd inform him that unless/unti there's an open/honest dialog about the matter, AND he takes steps to remedy it, there'll be no more sexual activity
appears to be a contradiction of terms, unless she means something different then the general implications when she uses the term; same for "orgasm"--can't have an orgasm without being "turned on", otherwise
not a question of a mind change; the guy either has a physical issue, is seeing someone else, is addicted to porn/masturbation, is gay, or has lost all desire for YOU; time to INFORM him that the situation
not worrying about the pain will make you more relaxed and make it less painful--childbirth is painful too and people still have babies; virgins, with proper foreplay, can get aroused/wet; as for "mess"
yeast infections and periods aren't very sexy things to think about; you have to change your mindset, focus on the things about her you like--both those things are now gone, but the period will return

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