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possibly a physical issue, or more likely, performance anxiety, which can occur with attractive women that you hope will perceive you as a great lover, so you get anxious, a situation not liked by the
you're about 24 years late writing this; at this point, i doubt anything is changing; why you've put up with this all these years is a question for your thrapist; she obviously has sexual interest/desire
since you've had orgasms, i don't think past issues are the problem; it's more that you're too FOCUSED on it--lovemaking is not just about the orgasm; the idea is to give/receive affection--once you put
i wouldn't call it a problem, unless YOU view it as such...some guys your age have no interest beyond 2/3 orgasms /wk...if your needs are greater, no harm being done..ps at some point, if u have the time/$$
word of encouragement: accept the unchangeable--as to whether her lack of desire for you is one of her many possible reasons for interest loss, either way, same result...unless you care to make her cooperation

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