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Column Headings: K = Knowledgeability C = Clarity of Response T = Timeliness P = Politeness
N = Nominated for Expert of the Month
| Date | User | K | C | T | P | N | Comments |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2009-11-20 | Jackie | 10 | 8 | 10 | 10 | No | I think you were kind in your responce. You seem to see both sides of the story, without pulling anyone down. Thank you very much Jackie |
| 2009-11-10 | lalith | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | u have given useful advices and i really appriciated that |
| 2009-09-22 | sophia | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-09-18 | siyaam | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-07-31 | Julie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you so much Vena. Couldn't have asked for a better answer. :-) |
| 2009-07-28 | Julie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 1 | Yes | Hi Vena, I just wanted to say that I gave you a "1" in politeness not because you were mean, but because you were real. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you have said. I now know what dangers I have been getting myself into. Thank you so much Vena. You were not polite, and I did not want that. I wanted an expert that was going to deliver the truth to me, and you did just that. I can't tell you enough how much I thank you. I am so proud of myself for not sending my pictures over the net, despite the times they have been asking for it. Now, what should I do now? I still have these guys online. I want to delete my entire account on QQ, but I have very few friends still on there that are decent. I don't want to block those men, and later on they change their names, and I end up adding them again, or they start a rumor about me on QQ. I don't know, I think I am becoming paranoid. I just need to know the next step. Vena you ..... |
| 2009-05-27 | Marion | 8 | 9 | 10 | 10 | No | |
| 2009-05-03 | Lori | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | thank you. In my mind I realize everything you have said is right, it is my heart that needs to catch up with my head. I just wish that there was someone, a fried, that I could lean on. thank you again. |
| 2009-04-18 | gayle | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | thank you very much.as hard as it is to let go and reading what you replied really puts things in propective.wish me lots of luck i will need it. |
| 2009-04-14 | sarah | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Your reply has taken a big load off my mind. You have been very understanding. Thank you. |
| 2009-03-26 | christiane | 8 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you for your prompt response. It was much appreciated. |
| 2009-03-11 | damon | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you. You have helped more than I can say. God bless you |
| 2009-03-02 | lisa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | once again, very thorogh and positive, thankyou vena xxx |
| 2009-02-26 | lisa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | i am so impressed with this service, it has cheered me up and made me feel a lot more positive and hopeful in my darkest hour. thankyou and i will be useing this service again, thankyou vena xx |
| 2009-02-20 | Elaine | 9 | 8 | 8 | 10 | No | Thank you Vena, i left out some details. He was asleep whem i spoke to him regarding the situation. The day after we spoke, he appalogised regarding it and he promises he won't speak to her any longer. I know when he upsets me i think of the situation and have wonders. I know my husband loves me, he shows it, he made a huge mistake but, he will pay for it till the end. His been great, he sent me flowers, lots of kiisses, tells me he loves me every hour, he kept saying sorry. He actually spoke to this woman and her boyfriend toward me. I believe my husband and i will not leave him. This man been here for me fore the past 4 years. I am not letting him go to someone like that without a fight. I thank you for opening my eyes. you helped realised that we human and we make mistakes and deserve a second chance and see how much my husband loves me and how much i love him. Thank you Vena, keep up the work. |
| 2009-02-17 | stephen | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thank you vena for the chat room advice hopefully you have solved our problem |
| 2009-01-17 | Zoe | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thanks for your help =] And also, I never give any personal details, and rarely chat online with people I do not know Only those who I have seen around school, in my street, ect. |
| 2009-01-13 | reem | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thank you vena so much ,iam really happy to find you replying my questions. take care and enjoy beeing loveable person |
| 2009-01-07 | Robert | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you for what I needed to hear at this difficult time. |
| 2009-01-02 | svetlana | 9 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you for the quick and thorough response. As hard as it is, I decided to accept the friendship for what it is. Hopefully he will tell me the truth when I earn his trust. Thank you for your advice, I very much appreciate it. |
| 2008-12-22 | janey moo | 7 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | thank u |
| 2008-12-09 | Marcia | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much for your reply. I wish I had had this a couple of months ago when I felt that my world was falling apart. All my friends thought I was crazy to feel this hurt over something that was not "real". It took me a long time to realize that my feelings were real, just wasted on a creep, who seduced me with words. Thank you for being a fount of wisdom in this, and from here on in I will exercise more caution. The funny thing is the man I was chatting too checked out in so many ways and made jokes about my paranoia over my privacy. I told you he was good. Thank you so much for your help Marcia. |
| 2008-11-29 | Teresa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you Vena I kept digging and found that it was indeed a 419 Scam. I hated to break her heart this guy was saying I Love You and making wedding plans along with the $89,000.00 box of gold he was sending her to .I am going to forward your email to her NOW. Last night I posed as her(because she can't type very fast) and I told the guy I was going to call the FBI. He got all upset and I ended the whole thing for her. So Thank You for confirmation. |
| 2008-11-29 | sally | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thank you very much-- your advice is much appreciated. |
| 2008-11-20 | katie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Vena, Thank you for your quick and knowledgeable response. I intend to follow your advice....it was my gut feeling to do the same, I think I just needed reassurance. To many this probably seems trivial, but there definatley is a problem. I often wonder....would he say the same things to me that he says to these strangers....who obviously turn him on more than me? Thanks for the empowerment. |
| 2008-11-16 | atusa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thanks |
| 2008-10-23 | marsk | 9 | 9 | 10 | 10 | Yes | i dont know if it helps but it does make things a bit clearer in my head. thank you so much. :O |
| 2008-09-15 | Bill | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | You have given me much to ponder, Nene and I thank you immensley. Bill |
| 2008-09-12 | alanis | 10 | 9 | 10 | 10 | No | Dear Vena I am sorry for asking a silly question like that. Your Friend,Alanis |
| 2008-09-11 | Jake | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thankyou very much! I guess living well IS the best revenge! |
Vena McGrath
Expertise
As the author of a novel about my life online in chat rooms specifically, and a few adventures into online dating, I can answer almost any question anyone could ask about chatting online. The excitement, the adrenalin rush, the manipulation of the mind, the corruption of morals, the danger of stalking and harrassment online and offline, the lies, the secrets. The reality of this `fantasy` is frightening. My book tells a story that hopefully will make anyone who reads it more wary and chatwise than I was when I stumbled upon chat in late 1999 as a naive woman who didn`t have a clue what a chat room on the internet was. I have spent many hours online counselling men and women with broken hearts, wounded pride, and yes, very real fear. My passion is to try to help eradicate the not so good factors out of chat rooms and make them once again fun places where people feel safe.
Experience
My experience commenced in June 1999 in international chat rooms and then a move in late September 1999 to chat rooms in Australia. I am still online, have my own chat room, and my first novel titled 'Secrets, Lies & Chat' was published by American-Book Publishing in 2005 and is now available from my website www.secretslieschat.net.au for a very competitive price. I have also released on my website an eBook which is a revised version of Secrets, Lies & Chat and only costs $4.95 5o download in either word or pdf format.
Organizations
I belong to many writing organisations online and I belong to the chat room community of BigPond.
Publications
Communique - a monthly newspaper produced by the NSW Government Department of Commerce
SMH ICON liftout 'The Net Effect' April 2004
Numerous articles in PoynterOnline
Numerous letters to the editor, SMH
My profile and short stories and articles are all online at AuthorsDen.com and some are posted on my website.
Education/Credentials
High School Educated
TAFE Secretarial
Numerous OH&S certificates
Numerous Computer related courses
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