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Column Headings: K = Knowledgeability C = Clarity of Response T = Timeliness P = Politeness
N = Nominated for Expert of the Month
| Date | User | K | C | T | P | N | Comments |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2008-09-05 | Marie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you so much for responding and I'm so glad you understand her personality so well, being in the same situation yourself. Your advice is worth a bundle! I will share this info with her, thank you again. |
| 2008-08-28 | Britany | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much/ |
| 2008-08-21 | Susannne | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you so much for the answer. I already there was not much i could do. It was nice to hear it from someone else. Thanks |
| 2008-08-15 | Lisa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2008-08-14 | Francine Connors | 9 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2008-08-14 | Lisa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thanks so much! I have sent you a follow up response. |
| 2008-08-06 | Jill | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Oh my gosh!! BJ, you are the best. You told me what I needed to hear and it completely makes sense. It's okay that I might not want to hear it, but I know it's RIGHT and the TRUTH. Thank you, thank you, thank you! |
| 2008-07-31 | Sandra | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | |
| 2008-07-29 | Lyn | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you for taking the time to process and respond to my concern. I will continue as I have been... and will not let them know that their choice is painful - as you suggested. After hearing that... I agree and also think it's one less concern for them at a time when processing and dealing with a broken family is very heavy on them. Thank you and God Bless, Lyn |
| 2008-07-23 | Nancy | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you!!! I do believe this even though I have not been able to talk to my daughter in person....she is in another state visiting her father. I know I have to get to the bottom of this...I will NEVER choose my children over ANYONE!!! This is so hard....thank you for your response |
| 2008-07-22 | Kayla | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Hey thank you so much for your advice, I talked 2 my mom and she said that I actually could get my belly pierced on my 14th birthday and my dad finally agreed that I am responsible enough 2 get one |
| 2008-07-17 | alysha | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank u for your respose I will use ur advice and see if my mom will agree with what you have said |
| 2008-07-11 | Sara | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | This answer was quite helpful. I really could tell that my question was really read over and the answer was thought out. Thank you so much. |
| 2008-07-10 | Jill | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much, Ms. Hickman. You have helped to ease my mind and I agree with what you said. Thank you also for answering so quickly. |
| 2008-07-09 | kay | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you. |
| 2008-06-30 | Lisa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Very good response to my question. I appreciate the compassion and concern. |
| 2008-06-30 | tania | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much for your rapid response. I actually was leaning towards allowing my girl to go away after instituting a "contract" that she not hurt herself, and you reinforced my line of thinking. I don't want to punish her for not knowing how to deal with strong emotions. We have a therapist lined up for her and she will be able to get in a session or two before she goes away. Thanks again so very much. |
| 2008-06-15 | Stephanie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thanks so much. sometimes it's nice to just have reassurance. |
| 2008-06-06 | Geraldine | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you so much. All the doctors have offered my son here is drugs. I will try find a doctor who specializes in ODD. When I ask my family doctor about it she looks at me like I have two heads. I don't think even she knows much about it. |
| 2008-05-16 | Abby | 7 | 6 | 10 | 8 | No | |
| 2008-05-15 | Kelly | 9 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you so much....I think you hit the nail on the head. |
| 2008-05-09 | Melissa | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you very much for giving us some clarity about our situation with our daughter! |
| 2008-03-26 | Crystal | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2008-03-19 | Maria | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you very much for your prompt and great response and your advise. I am already putting it to work. |
| 2008-03-16 | paris | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | I don't know who you are... but each response was very clear and refreshing. I will consider all you said and bring it to God in prayer. I needed to hear much of what you said. Stay faithful and encouraged! Praise God for you in Jesus name. Amen |
| 2008-03-16 | paris | 10 | 7 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Hi again. I did send another follow, but I forgot to thank you. I will check those resources you gave me and consider all your advice. You have been a blessing. The truth shall set us free... You know...the world needs people to listen and speak the truth in love. Thank you for positioning yourself with this service. I'm sure many have been blessed and saved through your ministry. Blessings again. |
| 2008-03-16 | paris | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | To Whom It May Concern: My relationship with my wife, along with my children, during and prior to our marriage has been very rough. I have made poor decisions for many years. I've been a victimizer and victim in the marriage. Verbal, emotional and at times physical...and unfaithful before marriage. We were both very young and immature. It was only until I commited myself to following Christ did I truly begin to be who I was made to be and change for the better. However, a lot of damage has been done. Unfortunately, my children reflect that same immaturity and disfunction. I'm away because I chose to retreat from ongoing serious verbal and emotional assaults. Although I played my part, I chose to change and will continue to try and be a better example in the second part of my life. I know this is way off the subject of my daughter, but I wanted to vent. So...yes, your reply sounds totally logical. Its hard when you can't take back the past. My wife wouldn't want to hear your response because she'll think I don't care if I don't step in when she calls, but your right. I ..... |
| 2008-03-01 | Jhon | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Perfect advice, especially the part about not being a victim. i'll move on with a new life now. Thank You |
| 2008-02-05 | Cindy | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you for your response. I will look for those books you mentioned. I will have to learn new ways of communicating with her. I am Divorced, and her father sees her weekends and maybe one time a week. I agree that her self esteem is an issue. I appreciate your time and input. |
| 2008-02-05 | Gwen | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thank you very much. I have already began counseling myself, and after just one session, I feel better. |
Answers by Expert:
Bj Hickman
Expertise
I am an interventionist and a certified addictions specialist. I can answer questions and offer advice regarding relationships with parents and teenagers, including but not limited to cases involving drug or alcohol abuse, eating disorders, sexual abuse, and divorce. I enjoy teaching parents how to prepare themselves for their child becoming a teenager and assuaging their fears of those "dreaded teenage years". I want parents to know they can not only survive those years, but they can actually enjoy them!
Experience
I am the mother of two grown children, 30 and 28. My husband and I have been married for 32 years. We have 31 years experience counseling parents and teenagers. We have learned some things along the way and often are asked to speak to groups on parent/teenager relationships. We also lead a seminar for teenagers on suicide awareness. However, what I feel makes me most qualified is our own children with whom we enjoy close and open relationships. Our kids are well-rounded, high functioning adults who are caring and are often sought out for advice from their friends and their friends' parents.
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