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N = Nominated for Expert of the Month
| Date | User | K | C | T | P | N | Comments |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2009-10-08 | Oqueenia | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-09-21 | Cherie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-09-13 | Ellie Woodsand | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | thank you so much... i could really your advice. thank you is all i can say for now. thank you :) |
| 2009-09-12 | Edwina Gant Lee | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you very much. |
| 2009-09-09 | Sherry | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | 10s all around. I hope you keep our exchange available for others to read, that is how valuable it has been for me. I am on a journey now and this email exchange was my very first step. I never expected such care and understanding from a forum such as this. I always thought my situation was so unique, who would ever understand it? I don't feel as alone as I once was. |
| 2009-06-08 | Lotus | 10 | 10 | 8 | 10 | No | Thanks. |
| 2009-05-08 | Kim | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much Kriss; you confirmed my suspicions relative to the continuing cycle. I know what I need to do....I love & miss my son terribly and neither of us can endure the pain any longer. Thanks again & bless you for your kind, yet straightforward response. Kim |
| 2009-04-20 | Ritu | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Dear Kriss, your reply is like magic dust to me. i will forver be indebted to you for the time you took to reply to me. somehow i felt no one was listening to me. i spoke to my husband last night and he says he is sorry and wanted me to shoulder the responsibility, saying i was rude too. i refused to take the responsibility for his behaviour and didn't cry or look weak while talking to him. i told him that next time he acts spur of the moment, i will too. i hope it works. this is the man i fought the world for. i want to give it another chance. his younger son stays with us and loves me to bits. i don't want him to go through a bad phase again. i am sure this all sounds familiar to you. but i think i have shown him the mirror. my father in law also told him the same and to compare it happening with his own sister. husband is behaving depressed but i'll let him be. thank you kriss. i hope i find strength inside me. you have no idea how much differnce you are ..... |
| 2009-04-14 | Melanie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you very much for a solid, reasonable and timely response to my question. Regards, Melanie |
| 2009-04-08 | Debbie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-04-08 | Debbie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Kriss has been wonderful in addressing my concerns - she was sensitive to my feelings yet very clear in her advice. Her response was quick and she was kind, compassionate and very warm! I got the impression she was looking at my situation from MY point of view, trying to completely understand what I had to say before responding. That helped more than anything else, I guess. I have been struggling with my doubts for a while now and I have no close friends or siblings I could speak with. Interacting with Kriss has made all the difference to me. I cannot thank her enough! |
| 2009-04-06 | Brittany | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you very much. It helps when this isn't coming from family, I know I'm not the only one, and I feel as though I truly am shuting down my feelings. I plan on calling a thearpist tomorrow. Thanks again. |
| 2009-04-04 | Jo | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Very fast reply and good advice. Thankyou. |
| 2009-03-16 | vicki | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | You've helped alot Kriss, more than you know; your clarity is what I've lacked and it is time to unhook, it has to be up to her. God willing it will be soon. Thank you so much. |
| 2009-03-15 | Hope | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much, I have gone to so many counselors and therapists just trying to deal with what has happened. I have done so much research for knowing how to deal with things for my son and protect him as much as possible with also helping myself deal with this to help him deal well. I guess this is all I can do for now just do my best for him. Thanks again, it does help just to get it out and know that it is a horrible thing and I am not alone. Take Care. |
| 2009-03-14 | Madeleine | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Thanks for your reply. It has been very helpful. |
| 2009-03-09 | vicki | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Wow...Excellent, Thank You Kriss. I really appreciate the support and kind words.Her understanding the denial is key to OPENING her eyes and heart. Will keep u posted. Vicki |
| 2009-03-06 | Leila | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | |
| 2009-03-02 | Ellie | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much for your kindness and helpfulness. I can't thank you enough for your very supportive answer. |
| 2009-03-01 | maryam | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | |
| 2009-02-23 | jill | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much. The phrase "why did you choose this hill to die on" really caught my attention because I have really done just that. I am consumed with it and it is basically killing me. I have put a lot of thought into that phrase and no one has really been able to get thru to me like that before. I appreciate your timely response and giving me a different perspective. Thanks!! |
| 2009-02-05 | Corella | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you for getting back to me so fast! I'm sure I'll find some very useful support for my thesis from the links you gave me. From your comments I will be sure to include how hard it is to leave at first but how essential and helpful counseling and informed resources are. Thanks again! |
| 2009-01-08 | Jen | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thanks Kriss, for such a quick response and great advice. I know that you are so right. Yes, I will definitely keep my appointment with my attorney. I just can't believe I'm going down this road. I guess it's been a long time coming. Please pray for me as I have difficult decisions ahead of me. Thanks again! |
| 2008-12-22 | Laura | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you. You were a HUGE key in my moving out of a terrifying and destructive hole. I can't tell you what your help has meant to me. |
| 2008-12-21 | Laura | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | This was the information and confirmation I desperately needed. I thought I was knowledgeable in this area, but was so entangled emotionally I couldn't tell what the truth was. Thank you Kriss. You've made SUCH a difference in my life and my son's. |
| 2008-12-18 | Jen | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | Yes | Thank you so much for your very quick response and wise advice. It has given me a lot to think about. You obviously have much experience in this area. Thank you for sharing it with others. |
| 2008-12-05 | Samuel | 10 | 10 | 10 | 10 | No | Very wonderful |
Answers by Expert:
I am able to answer questions with regard to problems that result from emotional abuse or physical abuse in both dating and marriage relationships. Having been in an abusive relationship for many years, I know first hand the feelings, the questions and the doubts we go through as we try to make decisions about our lives. Often victims of abuse have deep faith based concerns regarding staying in these kinds of relationships which I am able to address as well.
My background started as a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship as well as having family members who were victims of violence and physical abuse. I have gone on to become a professional counselor and I work with abused women.
Organizations
American Mental Health Counselors Association,
American Association of Christian Counselors,
International Association of Prayer Counselors
Publications
The Good News Northwest and the North Idaho Business Journal
Education/Credentials
Licensed Professional Counselor,
Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor,
Certified Rehabilitation Counselor,
Certified Natural Health Professional

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